By Jelelle Awen
I cannot make you grow with me, only invite you to come along. ~ I have experienced personally and have felt with so many others too over the years that one of the MOST difficult and painful grounds of growth during awakening and ascension is navigating through relationships….romantic, friends, family. As you shift and change as your heart opens, as your soul awakens, as your body enlightens…what you desire to see and feel with others shifts too. One of the main shiftings that happens is waking up out of the 3D sense that others are outside of you or just ‘there as a given’.
As you wake up to YOUR own magic and more of your bigness, so you start to really see and feel if others are a reflection of this or not….based on how much they are embracing, discovering, and exploring their soul as well. You start to want relationships to arise anew rather than remain stuck in comfort and safety. You realize more and more that your relationships with others IS a reflection of you. You start wondering, “What are these relationships reflecting about me?” You start pondering if those in your life (even the most BEloved ones such as your children and mate) really GET you and see you anew. Are they experiencing you through previous lens, experiences, and filters? Are they seeing and feeling how you are changing and becoming inspired by it or are they reacting in fear, doubt, and resistance? Are they saying that they are being ‘supportive’ yet are actually remaining in stubborn energies/parts that aren’t letting you in?
For awhile, these relationships can remain in neat and tidy compartments, with parts of you sometimes working quite hard, efforting and trying to keep the relationships going using the same, previous fuels of duty and obligation; familiarity; even ‘unconditional love’ (fueled by spirituality) can be used to stay in relationships. Maybe part of you tries to convince and teach others what you are learning and discovering during your awakening so that they can ‘get it’ too. There can be a forcing energy in this because it is actually run by unfelt fears in parts of you around what it would actually be like to lose, to mourn, to move on.
This comes from your SOUL waking up, after all, so there can be so much NEW energy then that is coming up and OUT. Not just love and light either. Yet, often 3D anchored (and lower 4D soul) frequencies of fierce self protection, need to control, distrust, doubt, confusion, depression/despair. These may have been numbed by the relationships, yet, they start surging up when your soul starts getting real about what is in your REALity. These are intense energies often too with darker tones, shadow sometimes, all the hidden things that the Inner Protector part of you has kept ‘safe’ behind the veil of your previously not remembering and the relationships that supported this.
On a higher soul level, all souls in your life agreed to be there and to be on this exploration with you. I don’t feel these as ‘contracts’ as others do, yet, rather, they are good will-based, love-based agreements with the ultimate purpose to bring growth and learning. Both souls/higher selves can feel that they are fluid, that the situations and circumstances may change; and that the relationships may run out of ground and complete on the transactional level. The higher selves remain IN and with love as they cannot be OUT of love, even if the lower dimensional selves cannot be in relationship any longer.
Inviting the souls in your life to ‘come along with you’ as your soul awakens comes from an energy of SELF love and trust. You are trusting that whatever happens will be held by love for BOTH of you. You are leading with what your soul desires for yourself while letting go of that you know what that choice should be for another person. THIS can be very challenging to inhabit until you have negotiated with the parts of you inside that struggle to let go of control and fear.
You can only invite others into and with a loving, clean, and pure energy IF you are inviting yourself and ALL your aspects into this ground of exploration. So as you experience it inside, so then can you naturally then invite others into it as well….
You can experience our process for connecting with, integrating your 3D self and 4D self aspects to allow for navigation of relationships through a bridging session with one of us (Raphael, Gabriel, Kalayna and me): soulfullheartwayoflife.com/bridging-session
Jelelle Awen is Co-creator/Facilitator/Teacher of the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life. She is a Soul Scribe and author of four books about Ascension, awakening, and emotional body healing. Jelelle offers a 90 minute one on one bridging session with her over zoom for $55 USD min. donation with women and with Raphael for men…more information here. Visit soulfullheartwayoflife.com for more information about our NEW SoulFullHeart process programs, group calls, videos, etc. Visit our donations page to offer a monthly or one time money donation to support our offerings.