By Wayne

It’s not your or my agenda that’s the issue; it’s the hidden aspect of it that holds us back.

Certainly don’t kill your agenda: love it and bring it out into the open. Every time you find a hidden aspect of it, own it, share it, trans-parent-ize it and every step along the way will then lead further to more of what the world is waiting for.

Wholesome parents feel what their child is feeling before they can put words to it, often even before they consciously know what they are feeling. Relating to our hidden agenda as a loving parent, is to get trans-parent with ourselves and to discover what we hesitate to see in ourselves.

I’d like to give an example that many of us can relate to. An acquaintance or friend asks to go for coffee, begins the get together with light talk, sprinkles in a few questions and then it dawns on you, sure enough…. that they are trying to get you into their latest multi-level marketing scheme – Amway or equivalent – and they didn’t tell you beforehand or even hint that was the purpose meeting with you. They hid their agenda for fear that you would have turned them down had they told you the real purpose and intention of the meeting. You feel betrayed, and rightly so.

Most of us have become way too aware of hidden agendas for that to work anymore.

Tepid relationships, tepid leaders, tepid coffee…yuck. Get real, get passionate. Share with me what your agenda is. Tell me what I’m missing AND be open to and desirous of my honest response. You and I won’t come out the same.

We are all wanting, even under our despair, to live in passion, in what we really want. You can have what you really want. It is possible…and this isn’t a shallow positive thinking approach.

The huge change you desire that looks so different from your current life, so unreachable from where you are now, is possible….IF:

If you are willing to move one step at a time towards that goal. Own it, dust it off, love it. AND be willing to adjust that goal as you go.

If your honest goal is be a millionaire, which others may judge as shallow or selfish, or empty, you need to fully embrace that goal for YOUR reasons. Why else are you here for, except but for to have a real human experience and to share it with the world. Much good and fulfillment and happiness could come from you becoming a millionaire. If however, along the way to that goal, you discover say that what you really in fact wanted a feeling of security and love that money could not provide you, then be willing to make changes to your goal. To what you really want. The millionaire goal was your best picture of what you most deeply wanted. Now you have a revised goal.

If you find yourself impoverishing others in pursuing your goal of obtaining wealth, and discover that the wealth you are seeking in the way you are seeking it is not wealth at all, be open to seeing your hidden agenda, and what is underneath of it. What you really want, to feel secure and important, and even powerful is possible, but in a much more transparent way, a way that is far less stressful, and more in tune with love and nature.

The difficult part of having what you really want is not that you cannot make it magically happen, like you tell yourself it is. The difficult part is that life feels so different when you begin to let in what you really want. Did you get that? ‘Letting in’ rather than ‘making happen.’ In fact we use the picture of impossibility as an excuse to justify remaining in despair, when the deeper truth is that we are not willing or ready yet to let in the abundance and goodness and aliveness of our real desires and the transformation (real scary changes) that come along with our deepest purpose and desires.

And so back to my original point – hidden agendas show us where we are not fully aligned with our truest desires. Our true desires don’t have anything to hide or apologize for. A hidden agenda that becomes conscious to us simply shows us a fear factor that is wanting to get enough love to let go of, and ‘let in’ more of our real passion and reason for being here.