Sex is the duality of difference. The little boy sees a naked girl for the first time, and notices the differences. We’re essentially all still caught up in the dynamic of our differences.

This duality of difference goes way beyond the two differences of male and female. It gets into the billions and billions of differences that express our uniqueness and what we are individually attracted to. I don’t want someone to like me as a charity, or as an unconditional love project. I want them to be effortlessly drawn to my uniqueness for that attraction to be nourishing to me. That is what sexy is!

So vast were the differences in fact, that the more I looked and noticed, the more I needed to open a new file for each person I took in. There simply wasn’t anything close to a clone of a single individual!

This is the true sexy hot-stuff that we crave and are at the core of our sexual ‘isness’. We are out seeking to know ourselves, by the act of seeking to know others. Through relationship we get to know ourselves. We can’t see ourselves until we put ourselves into the motion of e-motion in relationship.

We are not our bodies. We are not our gender. What we are is energy, and a very sexual energy at that!

You’re hot stuff.

You’re so hot, in fact, that parts of you have worked hard to mute and contain yourself into a manageable handling of this true estate of your being. Parts of us are busy managing our self expression in the world to find gain and avoid pain. Though their motive is only love, the data they are working from is askew and limited by the lack of love in your/their experience.

Entire new universes of experience await your choice and exploration. Your love journal that contains all that you have and haven’t experienced asks you to again be like the child, noticing the differences for what feels like the first time.

Not everyone feels the same way as you do about life, nor does everyone have the same experience of life that you do. I know that’s obvious, but when you feel this obvious fact, doesn’t it reveal the sacred to you? Doesn’t it create anew in you a desire to feel and heal the things that confine your experience of your true sacred essence?

Here we are, so very similar in so many ways, yet so vastly different at the same time. Here our Oneness with all things and everyone is contrasted with our totally un-duplicatable uniqueness.

That’s the sexy hot stuff that you are….that you are out trying to fall head-over-heels in love with….

To a truly more sexy you….

Raphael Awen is co-creator, facilitator and teacher of the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life. Visit soulfullheartwayoflife.com for more information.