W: Hello Divine Father.

DF: Hello Wayne, what’s going on today?

W: Well, I got laid off from the painting job that I was putting some time into as the people decided they needed to do it themselves. So my little foray into some painting post retirement seems to be have come to an end.

DF: And what was there to feel in that for you, or Tristan?

W: It feels like the time of seeking to find our way in life by extending myself out to others with a paintbrush is really fully winding down. For Tristan, it had felt like a way to earn some pesos. It hurt some for him to lose that, felt more like having it taken away, in the moment. But as I felt it through with him, he so gets that it’s time for this to move and transmute inside of him too. He would like to see us earn our keep through our deeper gifts, rather than a skill I took on 3 plus decades ago. So him and I are on the same page and feeling trust and that it was the universes way of leading.

DF: I almost feel like I need to apologize to Tristan, Wayne. With all that you, me and him moved and spoke about in these dialogues, it picks up the pace of things.

W: He felt that with me too and assured me that he wanted and realized it was time to let go of painting, that to hang onto it would be a resistance to what is being asked of us now. Showing up for someone as a painter is quite a different frequency than showing up for someone as a healer, and a community leader. We were both feeling that growing stretch, which is really a growing dis-integration, or disintegrity, if you will, where something has to give.

DF: And so the universe tapped on your shoulder, and restructured a few things.

W: Yes, it did, Father. Just like I wanted and just like I asked for and just like you said to be on the lookout for.

DF: And while all of that is true, that doesn’t mean there aren’t still things to feel when it does show up. Some part of you is going to have a bunch to digest.

W: I’ll keep feeling it all, but for now, I feel trusting and like it’s right on time. I went to bed last night after reading yesterday’s dialogue to Christopher and Jillian like we do every night at dinner, and was feeling new energy moving though all of us around community. I could feel that energy in my sleep, and then I woke with it too. I can feel premonitions of things changing.

DF: I feel premonitions of things changing for you too, Wayne.

W: Like what, Father?

DF: Well, with what we talked about yesterday, and you saying you were ready to show up for, what words did we put around it, something about ‘rooted and grounded empowerment in your alchemy, having to do with leadership’…, you can’t talk that way and not stir up change.

W: I hope it’s the kind of change I like.

DF: Well, Wayne, whether you like it or not has more to do with how you respond to it and feel it. Just like Tristan had things to feel to let go of today, there can be disappointment. But with your healthy wanter, I trust that you will find the universe is benevolent in the changes it brings and that it’s in line with your heart and souls’ alchemy, and nothing you can’t handle.

W: Nothing to play victim to here, is there, Father?

DF: Nope, not at all. Just the opposite, there’s new stuff to respond to, to show up for and find your way with.

W: In line with that energy, Father, what I was feeling last night after our dialogue, when you talked about what naturally comes after we do our homework of feeling all of our reactions, was a piece about the action steps that arise from that, For me, in line with that, what’s coming is inviting others into our community here at the ranch.

DF: I like it.

W: Really? Why?

DF: Well, for one thing, it would be shrinking and hiding for you not to be inviting. And for another thing, you’ve gone to all the trouble to set the table and plan the banquet, it’s just what comes next.

W: I went through a phase, Father, of feeling a push-pull around inviting, like I was in some kind of sales or marketing energy, or maybe more accurately, not wanting to be seen as in a sales or marketing energy.

DF: Why?

W: I think it has to do with whenever I’ve taken initiative and invited people into something, there was something that I wasn’t being as vulnerable about as I could have been, or fully honest about, and I felt something off about that. Then it also had to do with feeling the hurt if the person wasn’t interested in what I was offering.

DF: Want to look at both of those together?

W: I’d like that.

DF: This isn’t about fixing anything in you, Wayne. It’s just about supporting your intuition and your guidance with some spine and courage to take action. Okay?

W: Okay.

DF: Good. Now, vulnerability, honesty, and ‘full disclosure,’ I think they call it, the idea being of not hiding anything that might be a disincentive to the person buying. The transparency is what really makes for a sound deal because it dissolves any pretense that might be forming or functioning in the relationship. The challenge of community is to thin out the pretense in relationships that people consider normal, and even natural. It may be normal, but it’s far from natural.

W: I think you just reminded me why I’m drawn to community, Father. I want to go deeper into relating without pretense. Years ago, I read a book by a guy who said adamantly that the source of all stress is lying and pretense. Somehow, those words sum up an entire spiritual growth trajectory for me.

DF: And for the human race too, Wayne. It’s a race to be real.

W: Like a competition kind of race where the best man or woman wins?

DF: No, more like a progress, or a swiftly moving current where everyone wins together.

W: Plenty of room for us to grow in that.

DF: Totally. If someone isn’t feeling the challenge of transparency and emotional honesty in their relating, they aren’t actually safe to relate with. Human consciousness is getting that more and more, with people sensing a sham much quicker, but this growth in humanity needs to be led on it’s leading edge by people willing to embody it in their relating, with a bar set much higher.

W: Talk about etching something into human consciousness.

DF: And no other way to do that, than in community. Humanity is community.

And what was the other piece we were going to look at Wayne? Yes, the fear of rejection. You invite, and the person is indifferent or doesn’t even respond. Does that cover it?

W: Exactly.

DF: What would you say about that, Wayne?

W: Hmmm. So, if I am inviting in this way you are describing, with transparency and vulnerability, then I am offering my best gift, and reason would offer that maybe I should offer something less in case it’s not accepted, or wanted, to lessen the pain of rejection. I mean, that’s kind of been the standard human deal, hasn’t it? But as I feel it now, in our energy, Father, what comes is that by giving in this half hearted way, I really cheat myself of the off-the-charts nourishment that could come if someone responded to my heart open invitation. And there is the question to feel also about if I offer from a place of not being as heart open as I could be, how much of what I am receiving in return is a reflection of that? How much am I creating my own reality, in this case, disappointment?

DF: You are so on it, Wayne. And I’d offer you one more piece. There is this crazy joy of being fully in your power, in the world, in your relating, where nothing is being politely hidden, like you needed to do to be palatable to paint people’s homes for instance. The world is so built on bullshit, Wayne, that when one person becomes disloyal to the bullshit, everything in their world changes. You know this one. It hurts some to go through the crash, sure, but the freedom is like no other, and it isn’t one iota dependent upon the other persons’ response. It influences their response big time. It makes their disinterest far more alchemical in their life. Saying no to a telemarketer is pretty easy. Saying no to a once in a life times soul mates offer of friendship is quite another. You will change the world and your world, Wayne, if you are prepared to be more and more in this way.

W: I think I am.

DF: I said all that and you think you are.

W: Yeah, but you’ve been itching to say that regardless of my response.

DF: Hey man, I can keep my insights to myself if you’d like.

W: Father, I am so struck with your words and heart, I don’t know where to start.

DF: Good!

W: Real good. Thank you again.

DF: You’re welcome again.

Wayne Vriend is a co-founder of Soulfullheart Community, healer and author of 90 Days With Yeshua. Visit soulfullheart.com for more information.