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Premise 2: Mature the ego and experience Oneness

Published on September 13, 2016 by Raphael AwenLeave a comment

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Welcome to day two of our 21 day Magical Mystery Tour of the SoulFullHeart Premises. Today promises to be a big day in premises as we’re exploring our second premise.

‘Why are you offering premises, though?’ you may ask.

Every spiritual or healing practice is premised upon a specific worldview about the nature of things. This worldview dictates what happens and how it happens or doesn’t. It may seem like a mental engagement at first, but for those with a keen eye and heart for what they really want and need, nothing sorts out a choice point like considering the premises of a given healing offering.

When premises are not clearly laid out and available for all participants to consider as they get involved with a group, it all too often leaves them falling prey to conforming to the groups identity out of a codependent and understandable need to belong, rather than choosing to be a part of a community because it lights up your heart and soul growth like no other.

If you’ve been deeply involved in a group or community in the past that failed as a community or simply failed to hold your interest and engagement, I invite you to weigh every single SoulFullHeart premise in these 21 days together and ask yourself, ‘If I ever did join back in with a group again, what would they need to embody for me to get involved?’

SoulFullHeart may not end up being your choice or even what’s right for you, but you will have moved your souls healing path hugely forward by giving your attention to the importance of premises. Premises are what the foundation is to the house.

Ready to go?

Here is the second SoulFullHeart premise:

“SoulFullHeartenment is an awakening state of consciousness involving the paradoxical processes of individuation or ego maturation while healing the illusion of the separate self leading to a deepening sense of union with self, others, and God/The Divine.”

Another mouthful, right? Let’s sort it out and I think you’ll get from this what you are meant to. These are pregnant words carrying a lot of energy and you can have very different experiences of them at different moments. Likewise, me putting more words around them can go in different directions on different days.

Let’s start with the word ‘SoulFullHeartenment.’ We made up this word to carry an energy specific to the result of undergoing the SoulFullHeart healing process. SoulFullHeart is a path of simultaneously healing both soul and heart wounding, or as Jelelle likes to say, ‘healing from our roots and our wings.’ One is not preferred over the other nor is one used to minimize the other.

We feel that where heart wounding is not adequately explored and healed, all of our exploration into soul domains and non-dual states, or simply a healing therapy, are largely a medicative reality for the untouched heart wounding. However, where the personhood ground of the heart is explored and healed, the doorways into soul domains and non-dual awakening are far more natural and effortless portals into our authentic self expression.

‘SoulFullHeart-enment’ then is this place of never ending movement into ever deepening human expressions of our essence as Infinite Love, in both heart and soul frequencies. It’s not a state of attainment, but more likened to living in a parallel universe where it’s your native place of residence from the moment of choosing this inclusive path. All claims of ‘progress’ are surrendered to simply not having any way of measuring anything in an infinite reality. Progress, for what it’s worth, is simply being on the path.

It’s much like trying to describe to others a totally mind blowing sexual experience. It’s obviously new to you, and has you all aglow, but try as you may, there’s no way to quantify what you had. All you can do is claim ‘more than’ in comparison to what you had before. It seems to be one of the few areas that a government bureaucracy hasn’t ever been able to regulate, measure, and tax because it is so immeasurable and so uncontrollable.

Let’s go on now to this piece about ‘an awakening state of consciousness.’ We see that when souls enter a human life, they are largely surrendering to falling asleep and mostly forgetting their true identity and their intentions for their soul healing mission in a given life. It is this ‘having our hands tied behind our back’ in relation to our awakening that calls us from our very depths to forge a deep resolve and choice sufficient to cast off our pre-chosen slumber.

Many are not meant (from their own sovereignty) to awaken this life and instead are working their healing path through staying asleep. One is of no more intrinsic value than the other, and both are God expressions. If you are a soul that has chosen to awaken this life, you are enabled to do this by way of comparative difference, and choosing amongst options and your personal power to act on those choices. It is in this very real human drama setting that your epic healing story occurs.

This awakening consciousness unfolding has a powerful paradox, however, at its root, and two at first seemingly ‘at odds’ vectors. In SoulFullHeart’s picture, they are powerfully, perfectly and inextricably one.

One is your path of individuation. This is the path of coming to terms with being a distinct and defined self, an embodied sovereign human, with boundaries and power to decide, decree, and declare what goes on and doesn’t go on within your borders. And you can’t do any of that without an ego. Ego is seen simply as your centre of awareness and there are no judgments against the ego as being the source of all suffering and pain as taught in so many spiritual practices and traditions.

We feel rather that it is about what our egos are currently attached to, and the relative health or unhealthy nature of those ego attachments that are at issue. However, to remove the ego is to render a person non existent. The premise that ‘self is bad’ is the underground root conviction of these teachings, stemming from undiscovered and unhealed unworthiness at the core of the personal and collective being. You can’t express or have experience as a human without ego and without a persona to conduct life. Some face has to show up for the party.

Doesn’t that all by itself just take a ton of pressure off in relation to all the bullshit you had heaped on you about trying to rid yourself of ego?

Now, if your ego is currently attached to Nascar, beer and high fives, you and I aren’t going to have much ego resonance, but rest assured, you’ll be able to find plenty of others with all the ego resonance you need to find enough community and work your healing path in the way that you are, regardless of my judgments about the unconscious nature of your journey.

I’ll have to take my judgments, along with my ego and be on my way seeking resonance around what my ego is currently attached to. And when we’re all said and done, there will be plenty of time to debrief and compare notes with one another and, I’m sure, both learn from each other, over a beer even.

But, it’s about maturing the ego, not obliterating the ego.

You are an individual. The definition of that word contains a deep explanation of how we see the self. In-divi-dual translates out to ‘a duality (dual nature or two-ness) that cannot be divided. You are an inseparable expression of both being utterly distinct and indistinct from everyone else around you. Both are true and it’s only when both are seen and held as true that a healthy relationship with life can unfold inside of you.

All the goodies of individuation are yours, like sex and buying shoes and having a personality. So are all the goodies of being all wrapped up in Oneness, utterly inseparable from All That Is. You already are completely non-dual awakened in this way with the only thing you are working on is becoming more and more conscious of this preexisting fact regarding the true nature of your being. And you don’t have to kill the ego to attain anything.

Forget attainment……It’s tiring and the source of a ton of suffering, control, and superiorizing. Instead, if you need work at something, do like Jesus said and ‘labour to enter into rest’….do your own personal healing that will allow you to let in the spring-loaded essence that you already are, but is yet unmanifest in daily expression.

So, where does all of this take you, then? It takes you to ever deepening union with self, others and the Divine. Union with all of self begins in SoulFullHeart as the crucial getting to know, feeling and healing of our subpersonalities, who hold our this life and past life wounding. This leads the way to true and alive relationality with others and the Divine….all of which are paradoxically one and inseparable from the self at the same time. A relationship by definition requires an other to relate with. It’s a bit crazy making to begin to feel into, that we are both ‘other’ and ‘not other’ simultaneously, but ultimately it is the path to true sanity, because it is in alignment with What Is.

Trying to describe this in words is like the difference in sex between genital friction, as in the clinical word ‘coitus’, compared to a heart, soul and total body having a connection that is so deeply a personal and a transpersonal experience at the same time, where the afterglow goes into infinity and words fall hopelessly short of description.

We are wired in our essence to fire on these cylinders in all the dimensions of our being. We use the phrase ‘Self, Others, and The Divine’ a lot to highlight the essential growth tracks of our relationality. Our personal relationality is founded on the interrelationship of self, other and the Divine. We separate what cannot be separated in order to provide a relational space in order to come back to the utter Oneness and inseparability that we are.
Pretty cool, huh?

I know today’s premise discussion opens out a lot of questions about things we touched on today like subpersonalities, the nature of reality, God, dual and nondual, etc., and I wanted to let you know that these are all coming up as separate premises right around the corner.

Thank you for being on day two of this tour. See you tomorrow sometime after sun up for day three.

I’d really like to know you are on board for this journey, so I welcome your comments and questions.

Please visit our website at soulfullheartwayoflife.com for a listing of all the premises and more information.

Raphael Awen is co-creator and facilitator of the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life. Visit soulfullheartwayoflife.com for more information.

Premise 1: SoulFullHeart is an integrated, holistic way of life

Published on September 12, 2016September 12, 2016 by Raphael Awen3 Comments

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Would you like to join me for a 21 day magical mystery tour of the heart and soul?

I’m going to be writing, posting, and hosting a daily blog here on this blog and on my facebook page on each of the 21 premises for the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life, the consciousness awakening and healing process that Jelelle Awen and I have co-created and offered facilitation in since 2012. Each day, I will share and elaborate on one of the SoulFullHeart Premises for which this process is based on with Jelelle’s input and editing as well. You can read all of the premises here.

The trip begins now. All you need to join is curiosity, desire, and, of course, choice…….no different than any other journey you’ve ever taken, right? If you have those things, I promise you that this trip will be a trip of a lifetime.

All of our premises are held with a ‘near as we can tell’ energy. None of it is absolute truth or written in stone. While we are passionate about each one of these premises, we also recognize that passion must also give way to the never-ending constant of change. As we live out each premise, we subject it to the rigors of what works and what doesn’t, in real time relationship, and allow ourselves to be changed in the process.

If you are good to go, then, let’s depart right now. This is day 1 and there’s 20 more to come.

The first premise is called the SoulFullHeart Premise, and it goes like this:

“SoulFullHeart is an integrated, holistic way of life, beyond a therapeutic or spiritual practice or religion, which leads to what we call SoulFullHeartenment.”

SoulFullHeart is a name that, in one way, we simply made up. In another way, it was and is a divinely guided and inspired name that was given to us to carry the energy and consciousness of something truly unique. It represents something that we had never encountered outside of ourselves. In its integration and holism, it doesn’t recognize any valid boundary between personal and professional or from who we are in our various relationships in life. One essence holds all of our various expressions.

There is also no real compartmentalizations between any of life’s key areas or expressions. SoulFullHeart currently sees seven key areas of life as follows:
1. Emotional
2. Spiritual
3. Mental
4. Social
5. Physical
6. Financial
7. Environmental

It’s not an authoritative listing as much as it is a way to feel into areas most people lack integration in. We look at and feel each area separately to feel how our leading edge (soul gifts, potential, authentic self) or our trailing edge (emotional wounding, soul blocks) currently expresses in any given area. While we look at each area separately, we acknowledge that none of them can actually be separated, though most people do work hard to maintain illusions of these as compartments in their lives.

That one area of our life could lack or express abundance more than another area is evidence of a lack of integration/integrity and wholeness. True integrity is where we come from a single ground inside of ourselves and is only possible as we heal and integrate. This ground will have many different expressions, but more and more, coming from a single source. In this way we recognize that integrity is not a moral or character attainment, but rather a purity of expressing from one seat of being. This journey of returning to Oneness is a practice that’s never done, always deepening and unfolding in a myriad of expressions due to our Infinite Love nature.

SoulFullHeart is also a way of life. Every one of us has a way of life, but few of us are very conscious about the way of life that governs so much of who we are and how we express in the world and within relationships. Fewer still have a carefully chosen way of life and the lack of this conscious choice leaves them essentially playing someone else’s life.

SoulFullHeart – through discovery, definition and advocacy – seeks to bring into awareness what actually makes for healthier and more integrated expressions of our essence as Infinite Love expressing in every day life. We seek to do that in an ever deepening, arising, collaborative way. We honour the feminine expression of feeling rather than mentalizing or seeking power over others through proving or convincing, or trying to change others. In this way, it seeks to be a collectively held and self-validating arising of ones own inner truth expressed out through living it into expression with others in resonance, rather than any authoritative, externally imposed criteria required for belonging. We’re all making it up as we go. How cool is that?

SoulFullHeart is also not a therapy, spiritual practice, or religion. While in practice we do things that look similar to all of the above, there are key differences that disqualify SoulFullHeart from being categorized as such.

Let’s take a closer look at each of these, one at a time.

Therapies of all kinds seek to define and remedy problems that a client, patient, or seeker is looking to be free from. Therapies by definition are out to fix problems. SoulFullHeart recognizes instead that whether it’s an unwanted behaviour pattern, or inability to manifest ones dreams, or some unwanted emotional reaction pattern, or even a clinically diagnosed complex or label such as anxiety disorder, or depression; it’s all part of our souls sacred and chosen healing path. All of the pain is owned in this way and relationship with our wounding is chosen over escape or transcendence from…..none of it is wasted and none of it is ‘bad’ or ‘evil’.

This is a difficult concept for most people to grasp as we are so oriented to self-help and self-improvement efforts as our salvation from the many things we seek to change in our lives. In this way, SoulFullHeart deconstructs (heals to free up natural and spring-loaded essence) our way to healing, rather than a therapy picture which seeks a constructive path (paves over wounding with adding something that offers a good enough solution or ‘fix’). Therapy is done when the result is achieved. SoulFullHeart is never done as the manifestation of our Infinite Love essence and expression in the world is also never done deepening.

SoulFullHeart is also not a spiritual practice in the sense of something you practice to reach some kind of attainment. Instead, we feel that you are in essence as attained as you will ever be, although in actual expression you have yet to manifest this. It is only in this so-called earthly dimension that you seek deeper resonance with what you already are as a soul in your essence. ‘Seeking to attain’ in this way is actually a block to letting in what you actually are. There’s nothing to attain. There’s everything to let in and we offer that you have to deconstruct what is false in order to let your authentic essence arise.

SoulFullHeart is also not a religion in the sense that a religion offers you a path to God, Heaven, or some desired enlightened state. SoulFullHeart instead offers that you, as you are right now, are as God-connected and enlightened as you will ever be. There’s no gift of grace to receive that you still need to come to possess. Now, you are finally free to make lifestyle changes purely if you want to. There’s no heaven to gain or hell to shun other than you showing up in life flowing with growth and change, and all of that as divine play that we like children are making up as we go. In this domain of where our duality is a part of our non-duality, there’s a strange paradox where ultimately nothing at stake, while experientially, in our day to feeling of life, everything is at stake.

We say that all of the above leads to Soulfullheartenment. We again felt free to invent a new word to convey and energize a new reality. After all, that’s true about every word in every language, is it not?

An explanation of Soulfullheartenment will be offered tomorrow in Premise # 2 – SoulFullHeartenment Premise.

Please stay tuned.

Before you go though, please check in through comments to let me know, as well as the others along for the ride, that you’re here. Why go it alone when life is offering you community?

Thank you so much for your presence.

Raphael Awen is co-creator and facilitator of the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life. Please visit soulfullheartwayoflife.com for more information and to read all of the premises.