By Jelelle Awen
This push and pull, this ‘tug of war’…..You can wear out your hands and hearts engaging this way with each other. This energy puts you on one side and them on the other. This energy creates division lines and walled-up fortresses. It creates stances and lock downs. It can only be ‘against’ rather than ‘with’.
Moving into a ‘with’ in relationships of all kinds brings you into love together rather than polarizing against each other with unfelt and undigested fear.
This can only happen on the outside, with other people…..as it is happening on the INside within you. Where there is a tug of war from one part of you to another…your Inner Punisher and your Inner Teenager (for example) or your Inner Protector and your Inner Mother/Father…..so, it will manifest on the outside.
How can you be different in a relationship with someone else than you have been in relationship with parts of yourself? Where would this new and spacious and healthy way of relating with others come from if it is struggling to happen inside of you? Why would others draw a healthier way of relating from you…..if the putting down, self punishing, guarding, suppressing energies are occurring from one part of you to another?
INside is where the empowerment is. INside is where the ambassadorship of offering love to ALL parts of you has the most traction and can go in the deepest. INside is where the gifts of your empathy, your healing, your compassion can be received the most fully.
AS that ambassadorship happens deeply, offering love to ALL parts of yourself, so then, it overflows outwards and DRAWS those who can resonate with these frequencies as well. Their self love resonance overflows to mingle and mix with yours. And if it doesn’t, then transaction just doesn’t happen.
This self love overflowing then is where healthy relating can swim. This becomes less co-dependence based on parts grabbing and pushing on each other and is more interdependence….two healthy ‘I’s’ dancing to the music of their healing hearts and souls.
More about parts/Metasoul process in my Deepen 33 Day video series going on NOW until February 2nd…here is the playlist to watch the videos so far: