I Cannot Make You Grow With Me, Only Invite You To Come Along: Navigating Relationships During Awakening

By Jelelle Awen

I cannot make you grow with me, only invite you to come along………’Shrinking to fit’ in relationships with others is one of the biggest ways that we can cap our soul bigness and keep our hearts more closed related to transacting intimate love with ourselves, others, and the Divine. These shrinking dynamics happen when parts of us conform to others expectations, ideas, and roles about who we are rather than being who we really are.

Instead of shrinking to fit to maintain the ‘old’ and comfortable ground of transaction, we begin to stretch and challenge that ground as we awaken and heal into more expression of our authentic self. I am seeing in sessions lately that this realization of shrinking to fit is especially happening during this time of Covid, political polarization, Matrix disclosure/collapse etc. as souls wake up to a deeper truth beyond what they have been programmed to believe.

As you share this dawning truth with your family, mate, and friends, there can be quite a backlash, vilification, and even completion of relationships as the dissonance of consciousness can’t find ground to transact any longer. The previous contracts/agreements of you holding the ‘black sheep’ or ‘healer for the family line’ or ‘mate that is awakening ahead of the other’ etc. have now been outgrown and run out of ground.

This can be a very painful process of loss and completion for parts of you, especially the Inner Teenager and Inner Child, with much opportunity to feel the deeper aspects of ourselves that were being mirrored and projected in the relationship onto the other person or people. Much shame can come up in parts when they are judged harshly by previous beloveds. Sometimes parts of you may feel like convincing, proving, and tugging on them to get them to ‘see’ what you do as a form of protection and fear to loss the bond.

Inviting the souls in your life to ‘come along with you’ as your soul awakens comes from an energy of self love and trust. You are trusting that whatever happens will be held by love for both of you. You are moving beyond previous contracts and agreements and into new arising grounds of love beyond them. You are leading with what your soul desires for yourself while letting go of that you know what that choice should be for another person. You are setting a clear boundary about how you want to be seen and treated and advocating that you ultimately require resonance in your relationships.

This can be very challenging to inhabit until you have negotiated with the parts of you inside that struggle to let go of control, fear, and attachment in relationships. You can only invite others into and with a loving, clean, and pure energy if you are inviting yourself and all your aspects into this ground of exploration. So as you experience it inside, so then can you naturally then invite others into it as well.

Love,

Jelelle Awen

We go into these grounds of inner discovery around relationships to feel what mirrors are being offered by them from within you and possible soul themes/patterns/karmic compensations going on as well during 1:1 sessions over zoom. This ‘inside out’ approach and way of feeling it allows for more authentic arising self worth and self containment and digestion of previous trauma from relationship experiences as well, creating more ‘room’ and breathing from within. More information about sessions at soulfullheart.org/sessions

‘Business As Usual’ Is Not So Usual: Letting Go Of 3D Anchors In Money/Livelihood And Relationships

By Jelelle Awen

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‘Business as usual’ is not so usual anymore. The routines and patterns that bring a sense of safety and comfort are being interrupted and shifted by all these waves of high frequency light. And, if your life IS continuing to remain exactly the same, it could be that part of your 3D self is holding onto the patterns, routines, safeties, and the knowns for dear life, not wanting to let go, wanting to remain anchored to some degree still to 3D life. It could be a part of you that is understandably afraid to be untethered, free to fly and, therefore, also susceptible to crashing and burning.

Oh, those anchors and those hooks to 3D life can be so deep and invasive! They are what you can feel as ‘business as usual’…sometimes literally a business or a job or a career, especially if it is 3D-based, a long-term source of livelihood, and not serving your passion purpose expression of love here as felt and seen by you. The security and safety of these ‘means of income’ wants to be threatened and sorted out, so that you will start to let go and step out into a more trust-based relationship, 4D and higher frequency relationship to drawing your means of supportive energy in the form of money for yourself. Or, so that you will lean into a community of other resonant souls in a sharing money picture (as we do in our closest circle in SoulFullHeart)….or, with a sacred union mate for which you can collaborate and create your livelihood together.

Sometimes, the anchor to 3D ‘business as usual’ money earning has already been let go off and severed in many ways. But, maybe it was with harshness or suddenness. Maybe it was the rejection of a steady livelihood or 3D career or business in favor of living without true means of supporting yourself in a sovereign and consistent way. This can lead to ultimately compromising situations, such as moving in with birth family to support you as you ‘find yourself’ or to receiving money from the government because you are ‘disabled’ or ‘mentally ill.’ You have let go of 3D life in one way yet, actually, are now anchoring into a birth family safety (in the form of government aid in some cases) that provides another kind of anchoring.

This can be OK and even necessary for a phase, yet, the question becomes: is this way of receiving livelihood (love in the form of money) ultimately serving your higher expression of love here or is it settling, limiting, and/or confining you? Is it based on a picture of you being broken or needing fixing or not being able to manage in life? In some cases, the best service of loving yourself could actually be to get a ‘regular job’ in order to be able to fund the things that most feed your soul, allow you to be independent from family again, and move you closer toward your soul expression being the source of your livelihood here.

‘Business as usual’ also relates hugely to relationships in your life, which can very much have this normalized and flatlined sense about them if based in 3D frequencies of duty, obligation, routine, comfort, and familiarity. This can especially be true in long-term friendships, birth family, and romantic relationships where you are awakening and others are choosing not to. Relationships can and do provide a huge anchoring to 3D reality, which is needed for survival for your childhood and yet can then become have a hampering effect, a dampening on your awakening and growth. Shrinking to fit these long-term relationships can look like pretending to be the same around them ‘on the outside’ even as you are hugely changing on the ‘inside’ and ‘in private.’ Parts of your 3D self, especially the Inner Protector, can wear this mask very well and energize suitable and conforming energies to fit in with these relationships even when you are consciously unhappy in them as a soul/5D and higher self.

It IS possible to experience life as an arising wonder. Every moment open to the surprises and mysteries that could unfold if you can let your relationship to others AND to life and to love arise anew for you. The usual and normal give way to what Infinite Possibilities might bring to each circumstance and how they might be changed into the unexpected and even magical. In this arising wonder relationship to life, you no longer experience boredom and, when you do, you can feel the part of you that is still wanting to anchor to 3D life in some way and WHY they are. These textures of arising wonder happen when your higher self consciousness can come into your body, expanding your heart and opening your mind beyond ‘business as usual’ and into the sublime magic of All That Is.

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In the SoulFullHeart Process experienced through affordable weekly sessions with a SoulFullHeart facilitator, you get to know aspects of your 3D self and how they operate and are still anchored in all areas of your life, including financial and social. You receive support to negotiate with them as your 5D self and navigate choice points toward manifestation of your highest purpose. Read more here about our free intro session with a facilitator: soulfullheartwayoflife.com/sessions. This article identifies the 3D, 4D, and 5D self as it relates to seven areas of life: emotional, spiritual, mental, social, physical, financial, and environmental: http://www.soulfullheartwayoflife.com/3d4d5dselvesquestions
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Jelelle Awen is an Emoto-Spiritual Teacher, Soul Scribe, waySHOWer, and co-creator and teacher of the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life. She is author of Sacred Human, Arising Wonder: Ascension Through Integration Of Your Emotional Body With Your Spirituality and  Keep Waking Up! Awakening Journeys To Avalon And Beyond Visit soulfullheartwayoflife.com for more information about a FREE intro session with a SoulFullHeart facilitator, group calls, videos, retreats, etc.