Holding Genuine Empathy & Love For Others

by Kalayna Solais

The conditioning is deep around what we’ve been taught real love and care is and looks like. It’s challenging to feel it in different ways, to take a deep look at how we’ve related to love and how we’ve been convinced we’re supposed to embody it.

So often what we think of as loving or caring can have more of a negative impact on others than a positive one. False apologies, empty promises, tugging and grabbing at others… these frequencies can be obvious or subtle. And in any case, we aren’t genuinely caring about our impact on others, only what parts of us want and are afraid they won’t get or look like on the outside. I so know this one from my own process too, and learning to see and feel even the subtle ways in which this happens is illuminating and invites you to shift these patterns for good.

This is tricky… and hard to feel too. It can be hard to look inward and challenge how we have been holding love and what it means to love another, whether in official ‘service of love’ or in everyday relationships. It’s amazing what it illuminates within though, which is so often an untouched inner reality of how we ourselves, and parts of us, have felt incredibly unworthy of real love, abandoned somehow, and in a void space that has never been filled by genuine self-love and the journey of unfolding that within.

So what does it look and feel like to actually care and love another person?

To me, it feels like giving space for another’s growth without tugging on them to join in on yours. It feels like inviting someone to share with you what they need and want, but not with a commitment from you to make it happen for them. It feels like the overflow of good inner-parenting, of relating to yourself and getting to know your own quirks and shadowy aspects and energies within you as well as your gifts and growth and flowing this energy to another to support their own inner-parenting to grow and blossom too. It feels like being willing to let go even when your heart really doesn’t want to.

It’s a lot to feel into these pieces and truth be told, I’m not sure any of us can truly master this skill of loving another in the purest way… though we can definitely care about this journey and continue to do the inner healing to help us get there. We and parts of us all have understandable investments in relationships of all kinds and hopes that they will last too. We all have desires and dreams and don’t really ever want to feel lonely (though really landing in the loneliness has so many gifts too)… we all have what we want to experience from others and in our lives in general. Yet love asks us to trust… to invest in the process yet divest of the outcome. To feel what we want most and understand that it won’t always come to us in ways we can control, and also, to see it all as a process that can only ever begin within. We really DO have to BEcome the love we want to draw on the outside and share with others too!

Above all, love wants us to remember that it is never against us or anybody else, though it can feel that way at times. It only ever wants us to experience more of it within so that we can share it with others. This flow of love is really all the ‘service of love’ is anyways, though it can be dressed up in many ways and be given many labels and is not always easy to truly embody for ourselves, let alone others.

Much love to you as you continue to experience your own journey into more and more REAL love, and the path of learning to embody love in the most authentic way possible. ❤


Kalayna Solais is a SoulFullHeart Facilitator for women, energy healer, soul scribe, and poetess.  Visit https://www.soulfullheartwayoflife.com for more information about space holding sessions, group calls, videos, community, etc. Visit our Patreon page to offer a money donation to support our offerings at https://www.patreon.com/soulfullheart.

The New Paradigm Of Being A Healer

By Jelelle Awen

After working with people for over 15 years as a coach/healer/teacher/facilitator, I so feel how we cannot actually heal another person. We cannot do the inner work for them. We cannot fix or solve or even really KNOW what their highest path is. We can commit with presence to provide a bridge for them to their own inner discoveries, yet ‘reading them out’ and ‘giving them the answers’ is old paradigm.

There is a new paradigm of being a healer that is revealing itself as we move more into 5D New Gaia frequencies. This new paradigm is about doing/being your inner work PRIMARILY so that when you are offering healing frequencies to others it is because you are in joy, abundance and goodness in your own life. Not despite your own unhappiness, pain, suffering, etc. do you serve others to overcome it and to make yourself feel better. Yet, rather, you are in overflow and offering your soul gifts from that place of embodied self love and self worth. Those who have compartmentalized their service to others by being in disintegrity in any way will eventually no longer draw others to them to serve. Many ‘healing practices’ and spiritual teaching offerings are struggling to draw people as they are invited to go to this Next Level of purification within.

The new paradigm offers that, as a healer, you are your OWN healer first…..continually going through your own deep dive, shadow integration exploration and, so, can hold that space for others to do the same. You are a guide and a mirror for their Higher Self…..a mirror, not ever a replacement for someone’s own soul’s wisdoms.

So many abuses, manipulations, distortions, etc. have come from 3D/Lower 4D healers/teachers/gurus that have been fused to undigested karmic lifetimes of being dominant, ‘all knowing’, claiming to be the embodiment of the Divine while not actually doing the shadow clearing and emotional healing work that allows for an embodied emotional maturity that recognizes EVERYONE as a Divine spark. They have been allowed to teach from a place that isn’t authentic or representative of how they treat others in their ‘personal life’. Many of these abuses are now being exposed as ALL of it is being purified to return back to true and authentic service of love….which is always a ‘with’ reality and not an ‘against’ or ‘over’ others.

YOU are the healer of your own inner world and the manifestor of an outer world that matches that healed state. YOU are actually the space holder that can provide the digestion of trauma that parts of you from this lifetime and other lifetimes most need. Any healer or teacher that offers you any other perspective than this one is still moving through the Lower 4D matrix of fear-based control and undigested abusive power dynamics.

During 1:1 75-90 minute sessions over zoom and in person in Victoria, BC, I and other SoulFullHeart Facilitators set the stage for you with our experience and lived in relationship to the SoulFullHeart process. We support you to discover how it can help YOU to heal yourself. YOU connect to support systems that have always been there for you, such as Star Family and Divine guides, even if you haven’t always been conscious of them. We offer when it feels like a specific part/aspect is coming forward and then collaborate with you to discover that part and the traumatic scenes it may be stuck in/looping in OR timeline bleed through that is happening.

We take a wholistic and systemic view of your life…..ALL areas of it…..emotional, physical, mental, financial, spiritual, environmental and social. Nothing gets left behind or out of the exploration and YOU discover the gifts of not leaving any area (or part of you) behind.

Sessions are $100 CAD (about $77 USD) with me for women over 30. Bridging sessions with Raphael Awen and Gabriel Solais (for men and women) and with Kalayna Solais (with women) are $77 CAD (about $55 USD). More information about sessions here: soulfullheartwayoflife.com/sessions

I highly recommend taking in my 33 day video series called Deepen to get more sense of what sessions are like. Each video offers a teaching about SoulFullHeart and a guided meditation. The full playlist is here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNmrHdaQSAvLiLpw1qSOmQE-tsqhGSAD3

Jelelle Awen

Photo taken by Raphael of me sitting by a ‘Grandmother’ Cedar, over 1,000 years old on the west coast of Vancouver Island

Healing Is A Birthright And INvestment

By Kalayna Colibri

Healing is an investment, an exchange of energy. And offering healing space to others is the same.

We are far from entitled to our healing in this or any life, even though it’s our birthright.

The pre-requisite to healing is a claim and a willingness to invest – heart, soul, body, money – with discernment. And a surrender to the path at hand.

We are also far from entitled to express our healing gifts in this or any life, even though they are a given and are available for the claiming.

It is an honour to awaken and to serve self and others. It is work to cultivate the love overflow within that can arise in service organically. And, it takes courage to ask for what you need in return of offering service to others, to create a mutually beneficial and nourishing exchange.

This is something so challenging for wounded parts of us to let in sometimes because they want to find movement without growth, and healing without a deeper claim of the path and the needs that are present.

Yet, the more we feel these parts, the more we can move into the heart and soul bigness capacity we all have, to BE where we are, SEE the opportunities in front of us, and step into the portal of where love and the universe want you to go next – embracing the investment and the lessons, both. 



All that said, if you’re curious to check out the offerings and powerful space holding of the healing path I am deeply a part of, check out this page on our website here: soulfullheartwayoflife.com/sessions

Photo by Joshua Reddekopp via unsplash.com



Kalayna Colibri is a SoulFullHeart co-founder, soul scribe, and poetess. Visit https://www.soulfullheartwayoflife.com for more information about space holding sessions, group calls, videos, community, etc. Visit our Patreon page to offer a money donation to support our offerings at https://www.patreon.com/soulfullheart.