by Kasha Rokshana
So many times you’ve forgotten that your truth is important.
It doesn’t actually matter if your truth is ‘right’ or ‘correct’ based on facts, figures, or socially accepted assumptions. It also doesn’t matter if it’s the truth of a wounded part of you projecting shadows onto those around you. Whatever is true, feels true, or could be true for you and any part or soul aspect needs to be shared some way, somehow.
We deny ourselves the real virtue of being messy and coming out the other side with more understanding about ourselves and others, and a deepening capacity to feel ourselves and others when we shut ourselves down. Getting to the real heart of your real truth takes digging and flowing inward yet also outward, expressing what you need to when you need to, whether or not it feels rational or even very ‘loving’.
It’s in our most controversial moments at times, our most fiery outbursts, that we reclaim ourselves and our own realities while inviting others into it too. At the same time, if we can keep our hearts open, the realities and truths of others then get invited out onto the same dance floor.
We invite others to feel us while we open our hearts to feel them. This is intimacy.
This is why intimacy is scary… the mirrors we offer are also offered back to us.
I am SO wary of any ‘spiritual teacher’ that doesn’t invite in true intimacy with self and others in this way. You’ll never fully be shorn of shadow, nor would striving for that be particularly healthy on any level. You think we would be in this intense shadow dance with the rest of humanity at this time if it was possible, truly possible, to be 100% virtuous and enlightened beyond the need for any more mirrors and inner deep dives?
I don’t feel you would be here if that were the case.
I feel like I’m on a very deep journey personally, of showing up with my fire in tow and not mincing words unless a sense of genuine compassion asks me to be more tactful or even careful. Without my fire, the desire to be truly compassionate dies, however. Or at the very least, it isn’t quite allowed to breathe and be where it’s at. My care doesn’t get to come out and offer a balm and my own Divine Mother channel doesn’t get to become truly activated.
Denying myself my own fire doesn’t do me any good, and it doesn’t serve others either. I might ruffle feathers along the way, yet my heart is still in the space. I have emotional range and porosity at the same time as spiritual expansiveness. There’s no reason in my heart or mind that I can think of to avoid this because now there are new mirrors to take in of not only what I need to feel and look at next within myself, but also mirrors of my bigness.
This is what I feel inspired to share because I desire to inspire others. Let your truth out and sort it out as you go. There’s often a great cost and also a deadness that results when you don’t bother, when you sacrifice your truth for the sake of false light and love and dare I say, ‘tolerance’. Who the hell wants to be only tolerated anyways? And why would that ever be enough on either end of that equation?
As a sensitive and empathic soul, I’ve struggled to share my truth (not saying it is THE truth, yet sharing it out loud anyways) out of ‘not wanting to hurt anyone’, yet what I’ve learned through serving and also in my own intimate connections recently is that none of us are truly able to deepen our relationship with ourselves or each other without being real.
It’s uncomfortable to be real in a world that has told you over and over again NOT to be and to be compliant with whatever is ‘accepted’ instead. Even spirituality has told us all not to be real… or that to be really real is to share misery only.
In the realness of sharing our fire and our hearts, our bombs and our balms, we invite in a powerful humanly spiritual experience that connects us so deeply to our souls.
May you walk in realness and love today and always…
Burning up what needs to be burned up with love.
And cleaning up whatever needs aftercare in the aftermath.
Kasha Rokshana is a Divine Feminine Love Ambassador, SoulFullHeart Women’s Facilitator, soul scribe, and poetess. Visit https://www.soulfullheart.org for more information about space holding sessions and free 45-min intro calls, group calls, videos, community, etc.