Deconstructing 3D Egoic ‘Strategies’ of Parts of Us

by Kasha Rokshana

Born in 3D, into this Matrix reality, we’re taught, even ‘groomed’ to be strategic. To construct a ‘3D Ego’.

We have little choice. 

Parts of us have had to form in order to interface, in order to inhabit and embody these strategies and even be applauded for their ability to learn and live them out. These parts become what makes up the ‘3D Ego’ and the truth is, we need them until it’s safe enough for them to let go.

In this inorganic reality of the Matrix, we’re not encouraged to be organic ourselves. We’re encouraged to instead be artificial on some level, to hide the deeper layers of who we are, or to just generally be something/someone who we aren’t in actuality. 

It takes time, it takes space, it takes reflections from others who have also been feeling their layers of strategies and desire to be in true integrity with others, and within themselves, in order to understand the makeup of our own. 

Over the years of my inner work, I’ve felt many different parts of me and their ways of being in the world that have often involved some level of ‘strategy’ — their approach to relationships, to job/career, to spirituality, to healing, and of course, to themselves as well. 

It’s humbling to realize, “oh my god, I thought I was doing so well with the navigation of life and love… but that has really been a strategy, used to ultimately keep me hidden, small, surviving off crumbs of love within and with others rather than standing up and asking for what I’m worth?”

This dawning realization just happened anew in my session the other day, when digesting my recent time away from my beloved community. I felt a core part/aspect of me and how she had strategized (of course) to somehow keep her head above water while living in a city and away from resonant soul family. 

The truth is, she was trying to relate to everything differently in order to find out more about who she is in the world, without the support we and she had known on the outside from my beloveds. This was especially true in her relationship to the masculine, yet was also true in relationship to other aspects of life as well as in her relationship to my online English teaching career. Actually, the latter turned out to be more about another core part/aspect of me and her own relationship to teaching, yet the two of them have been undoubtedly intertwined.  

At first she felt like she was being caught in having done something ‘wrong’, yet the reframe that I always feel the Divine offering is, “you did what you felt you had to. Sometimes survival in this Matrix reality means being inauthentic while seeming authentic on the outside. There’s nothing to judge or punish, only more to feel… especially about how wearing any kind of mask, no matter how paper thin, has an impact on you.”

And with this reframe, I also humbly feel how difficult it is to be our authentic selves when we don’t have the support that we need from our relationships to order to truly feel and BE real — within and with others. 

We need the permission, the space, the support, both inside and out, to truly feel into our desires, our needs, and even our ‘strategies’ that are wearing out as we run them out.  

This is one of the many reasons why sessions with Divine Self Embodiment are so powerful and deep. We all, as facilitators, want to support your journey into what’s truly real for you and within you. Even and especially when it’s a bit of a jarring awakening to start to realize what has had to be in place in your navigation of life that hasn’t ultimately brought the deeper healing or self-realization you dream of, it so helps to have someone who can guide you through that navigation. 

I’d like to offer myself, as my own ongoing journey with this process humbly deepens, in service through 1:1 sessions if you’re curious about that. I have several beloveds who hold space as well. If you would like to find out more about sessions and our work, you can visit divineselfembodiment.com/sessions.

At the end of the day… there really is no need to judge ourselves or any part of us for the ways they’ve felt aligned to BE in this world. It’s actually the love we bring to them as the admit to their tendency toward coping and adjusting, which has had a cost to them ultimately, that begins to uproot and transform these tendencies — and truly bring us to a space of being all the more authentic in our being and expression. 

Love,

Kasha

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Kasha Rokshana is a Divine Feminine Love Ambassador, Divine Self Embodiment Facilitator, soul scribe, and poetess.  Visit https://www.divineselfembodiment.com for more information about space-holding sessions and free 45-min intro calls, group calls, videos, community, etc. 

The Grail Pursuit Of Soul Tribe

by Raphael Awen

The desire to find and be a part of Soul Tribe feels like it is increasing exponentially for many of us in the times we are moving through. 

It’s a feeling for me that has always been there in my life. At times, it has expressed in really applying myself to the tribe at hand, be it my birth family, my current circle of friends, my church family, a spiritual group, etc. What I found for myself personally was that the deeper I pressed into the family at hand, the sooner I found myself uncomfortably at the exit door to the relationship. While the exit door was usually an exit of my own choosing, as I was always welcome to drop what I was advocating for and needing, stop rocking the boat, and instead settle in for the life-long haul, I seemingly couldn’t stop myself from moving on.

Something has always felt at stake. Something has always felt that I needed to choose, to pursue, to desire, and to need. Something has always also felt that I wanted to be needed, to be chosen, to be desired, and to be needed. What has changed is the frequency bandwidth that I am broadcasting at in all of that wanting and needing. This then, in turn, led to natural moving on points, that I was being invited to step into.

Some people work hard to quell these feelings, and though there have been times that a part of me could envy living that way too, I keep coming back to a ‘search for the holy grail’ kind of living, and to do that with Soul Tribe.

My Soul Tribe is about the wanting, the needing, the desiring, the rocking the boat when the boat is needing to be rocked or even capsized. It is about the entering and the leaving. It is about completing one context of life so to be able and energized to enter the next context of life. It is about the endless curiosity expansion into the unknown. 

My Soul Tribe is about feeling all the losses along the way, to mourn them, to grieve them, to allow the next phase of Soul Tribe to arise and overflow into my life as I currently know it. 

My Soul Tribe is about feeling my truth resonate inside the tribe, where even a natural and healthy ‘conformity for love’ can breathe that isn’t a codependent grasping for love. I get to conform when I want to and need to. I also get to be uniquely different when I want to and need to. I get to do it all and be it all inside of community. I get to need and want love. I get to be loved. I get to feel all the parts of me who are in different stages of their own relationship to love and community. 

What is your Soul Tribe about? Are you in a ‘lone-wolf’ between phase that is preparing the courage to pursue again? Are their past tribe wounds that are wanting to be felt by you? Are there parts of you who refuse to ever risk again, while at the same time, other parts of you aching for real resonant heart and soul frequency community? 

SoulFullHeart is one such tribe. I belong to it and co-lead it. Session space is offered as the clear doorway into it. If it calls to you, I’d so love to host your inquiry further, all the way to the deeper and richer unknown that your soul can’t resist pursuing. 

Raphael Awen is co-creator, teacher, and facilitator of the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life.  Visit soulfullheartwayoflife.com for more information about sessions, events, videos, etc. Visit our donations page to offer a monthly or one time money donation to support our offerings.