A Gatekeeper’s Plea

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By Leena Colibri

Could you love me…
if I showed you the scars,
the wings that aren’t pretty?

 

…maybe they never were…
but I can’t tell anymore.
I’ve forgotten what they look like.
I’ve forgotten how to see them.
I’ve forgotten that there is a mirror
and that that mirror can exist in an open human heart.

 

Can you see tears on my face?
I can’t feel them anymore.
My cheeks are numb.

 

Has life smacked me down or have I?
Has it all been as violent as it feels to me? Who is ultimately responsible? Am I? Are you? Is God?

 

Am I a product of my own faults? If I am, will I ever feel remorse? Could I ever feel remorse?

 

Did the war end or just ebb?
Why am I able to talk to you?
Why are you able to feel me?
Am I dying?

 

Did the soldier I was give way to an angel of peace?
Am I acting out of what was and is no longer?
Or is it all just beginning again and this is the calm before the storm?
I certainly don’t feel calm.
And I certainly do feel the storm…
In fact it is all I can think about.

 

Why can I suddenly see you?
Do you see me?
Are you pretending, as you have before?

 

Are you ready to believe that I am wounded?
Are you ready to believe that something beyond “me” is wounded?

 

All I am is questions,
a quester on an unending quest,
finding no answers, just more questions…
but for the first time,
I am asking them out loud and I am not afraid to let them fall from my lips and drift over to you, and into an unknown love that I no longer fully trust…
but want to…but want to again…as I did before.
As I did before the war. As I did before the battles I was partly responsible for starting.

 

Where am I?
How can you hear me?
Why do you even want to?

 

I could be your essence.
I could be that spark inside you.
I could be a part of all you are outside and inside your body.
I could be a part of everything in the world while also only a speck of dust on this great plane of existence.
I want to be with your essence…
I want to be with the you that could lead me Home.

 

Please…
take me Home.
 

*Find out more about connecting with your daemon/soul guardian here*
 
 
** Leena Colibri is an apprentice facilitator of the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life. Please visit soulfullheartwayoflife.com for more information.

A Keynote To Selves: Golden Earth Tales

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(This is Part Twelve of the ongoing blog series: Golden Earth Tales.)

(Raphael delivered the following address on Saturday, May 7, 2016)

I would like to begin by thanking each and every one of me for your presence here this afternoon.

I am especially grateful for your curiosity, your desire, along with your hopes and your dreams.

I called this private meeting by specific invitation to each and every one of you as the personalities that make up what is tragically and all too simply referred to as ‘me’, as if ‘you’ didn’t exist. I know we all too often seek to be seen as one, understandably so, given our culture and the cults we are inescapably a part of, but we are in fact a glorious ‘we’ that I seek not only to address today, but desperately also need to get to know.

I know that you as distinct persons live in me as I often experience two or more of you as a tension or a polarity between two choices or energies inside of me. When I am less present to that tension, one of you willingly and sometimes willfully steps in to hold that tension. Here I again see your presence, your reality, your power, and your being. I could go on with example after example of your distinct and separate reality, but that would be in service only of convincing others, not present here today. You, I sense and feel, need little convincing.

I wonder what it is like being a part of me. I wonder what it is like for you when in my partial or full absence, you are left with doing life as me and in my name. What is it like for you to feel the power of my life; the identity of my life; the realized and unrealized dreams and potential of my life? What is ‘my’ life to you? How much of it is a shared reality of yours and ‘mine’, and in what ways? When and why were you born? Who in me did you rule over or submit to, and why?

Though we share one body, one brain, one physical history, and the illusion of being only one, we are in fact many. We are each different. We are each unique. As the Apostle Paul tried to convey in his teaching about the body of Christ when he said ‘Can the hand say to the foot, I have no need of you,’ we must recognize that we are a ‘we’, both separate, distinct and an inseparable oneness at the same time. Both are true. The folly would again be quite plain if when asked, “How are you?” to reply, “I am doing great. My liver has cancer, but I am just great, thanks.” As Paul went on to conclude: ‘When one suffers, all suffer. When one rejoices, all rejoice.’

I would like to not only recognize the fact of our distinct beings, but go on to get to know and feel the distinctions among us. I cannot say that I know you unless I am allowed and afforded a way to feel what you feel, to see what you see, to hear what you hear. I can no longer overlay my view of life onto you and rob you and myself from the sensational pleasure of mutual curiosity.

If one of you is not well, ‘I’ am not well. One of you, or I, may wish to hide another part of me that is in pain for a variety of reasons, as I know too often is the case for most of us ‘humans’. But let us be much clearer here in this private place than we are in the public place; ‘I’ am not well when one of you, one of ‘us’ is in pain, or disconnect, or has a deep unmet need.

All too often, ‘I’ have presented the conclusive “I am fine, thanks,” in response to an inquiry about how I was doing. I was quick to divert the lie by returning the presumptive non-question back to the other ‘person’; “And, how are you?” We have for so long co-signed this co-dependent perception of self as being a single personality that it is truly stunning that any functionality and sanity remains in us. We have even gone so far to as to culturally outlaw the very idea of being more than one with labels such as ‘multiple personality disorder’. I would like to go on record in this meeting, in this place with each of you present, to say that the term we must now accept into our lexicon is in fact ‘single personality disorder.’ The source of so much of our neurosis and the suffering of people is found here in this denial of being.

Before I wax too strong in my convictions and again fall prey to an old focus on others, I must apologize to you, the parts of me that I present as ‘I’. I deeply and profoundly apologize for my complicity in this appearance of being well when I was not. I was wrong. I am sorry. I am sorry for all the pain I caused to each and every one of you in a multitude of ways that it will take some time to fully feel. I wish to end this cycle now. I wish to take all the time it takes to feel it all, even if it extends beyond this life, or to alternative realities of what I’ve thought ‘life’ to be. I want to feel what you feel. I want to experience life from where you experience it. I must also ask each of you to join me in this apology to one another; to accept the end of this façade along with all of its attendant maladies that take away from our true and glorious wellbeing.

Both I and we have lived a long time in a picture of reaching out to others. I and we identified strongly with attaining a picture of being a leader with influence over others. Here, we felt and thought and imagined would be our fulfillment to the full. Others would convey and reflect back to us our worth, our sense of a life well lived. Today, I am inviting each and every one of you to see that the others I sought to help, that I sought to gain the favor of, are in fact not ‘other’, but WE are the ‘they’ we sought to heal and help. The realization of self that we sought to attain inside of a picture of being a healer to others is now dawning on our consciousness as the realization of our selves. There is no other to heal. There are no others in need of healing for me to offer or affect healing to.

Just as Jesus said, ‘I am the door, If anyone enter in by me, he shall find rest,’ so too each of us must find the grace and power to say the same thing of our-selves. Each singular one of us, in this multiplicity of being, is responsive to and responsible for our own healing. We must each own our own healing. Each one of us is responsible for our own conditioning, our own beliefs, and our own relationships to all of life. Each of us must now find the door to our hearts to search our souls deeply to determine what is worthy of remaining and what must be let go of in the sacred domain of our lives.

What we previously imagined to be the good life of being known by others must now be transformed into the much deeper and more glorious good life of knowing our selves. Our sense of meaning and purpose and gift to the world must also now originate and complete inside of our selves. Our fame must spread deep and wide to all the ends of our own kingdom.

How could I have imagined that we could have been of service to others while there was violence to our selves? How could I have dreamed of a world at peace while our own world was not even acknowledged? I want to sacrifice these imaginations and dreams on the sacred and holy altar of this new calling that is here now. I now know however, that unlike I thought in the past, I cannot mandate anything. I have no mandate today.

I have a desire. I have a dream.

In my dream, I awoke. I awoke to the presence and personality of you. In my dream, I was pierced by acute curiosity of who and why and what you were and are, and will become. This dream has overtaken me. I wish to yield every remaining breath and sunrise to this dream.

I surrender my future to us. I will love you in every breath. I will long to get to know you in every joy and in every sorrow.

I long for this day to begin now.

May we enter a new world now,

world without beginning,

world without end,

Amen.

Thank you to each and every one of me.

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Realizing Reality Together: Golden Earth Tales

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(This is Part Seven of the ongoing blog series: Golden Earth Tales.)

By Raphael Awen

Thank you for joining in on this blog series. I’m really glad to have your involvement.

I have this expanding sense humming through me today of what a human being actually is. I could say more accurately is that I really don’t know what a human being is. And as I accept that into my consciousness, I let in arising wonder. This sense of wonder and childlike curiosity extends to me, you, and even to the Christian couple who this past week accused me of being ‘a cult leader who talks to demons’.

Friend, foe, or in between, we are all part of the human cult and we are all in search of something. We affect each other and we are an intertwined part of each other way more than we realize.

I’ve also had a growing sense of some other ‘participants’ in this blog series from another dimension called Golden Earth. It’s actually what got this blog series launched and I wrote about it in part one. I don’t have any five-physical-sense ‘proof’ of its existence, but I have been afforded the self-permission to imagine it being ‘real.’ I ‘see’ and ‘feel’ through my imagination the active interest of a group of students that like hanging out together in the Golden Earth café and are keenly interested in brainstorming together around what I’ve been putting out in this blog series.

Of course, this all sounds like a science fiction story, and I can say that maybe that is in fact what all this imagination is – a story from beyond our normal scope of perception. What’s crazy though for me (in a good kind of crazy way) is that I get this growing sense that what you and I call ‘real’ and verify as everyday normal reality through our five physical sense perception of reality, doesn’t sound that far off from my ‘Golden Earth’ reality. My sense is that the reality that you and I participate in as ‘real’ is only real because you and I have in fact ‘realized’ it together. We made it up. We made it up in our own personal ‘fact-ory’. And then to top it off, we agreed that it was real. What a bunch of conspirators we are! I guess I am a powerful cult leader after all….wow…. and so are you …. like it or not. We make stuff up as we go.

If any of this stuff is a more accurate picture of the underlying reality that undergirds what we call reality, then at the very least, it puts us back in a place of childlike wonder. That childlike wonder opens out all the edges of what I consider real and true. This lens of childlike wonder filters and swirls through my adult mind and leaves me with a, ‘Holy shit, who the hell are we?’ feeling. ‘Holy’ and ‘hell’ are now in the same sentence somehow.

I mentioned the couple who called me ‘a cult leader who listens to demons’ as I’m still digesting this week the energy of our all-too-real confrontation. While my personal boundary is that no one gets to be a part of my life while they want to energize their reality in an intolerant way towards me, there is another way that none of us can escape anyone else. As we’ve been feeling into in this series: we, at a deep and fundamental level of reality, are all One. We cannot even differentiate enough from that Oneness for there to be an ‘other’ to have a difference with, let alone fight with them.

My mind starts to ride out on some of these feeling waves and mind waves, like a great surfboard ride, and it comes up with more and more profound questions. It’s hard staying on one train of thought for very long. It isn’t too far off from getting stoned really. But before you judge that as a bad thing, consider that what you call ‘reality’ may be, in fact, coming from the completely intoxicated and drug-impaired perception of what you and I just made up and declared real. Hell, you’re not the safe designated driver to get me home safely that you imagine yourself to be. Nor is the Christian couple offering me their Jesus picture of deliverance and salvation. I may not even be safe to drive myself home! I just may need to walk, or stumble, or just pass out on the sidewalk and try again tomorrow, thank you very much!

I love this madness!

I can feel the students at the Golden Earth café really rocking about now, so excited to feel us feeling into this together. If we can soften our perception of reality back to a place of childlike wonder, then they and we get to come out and play. I see the universe knocking on the door of my childhood home – “Hello, Mrs. Awen. Can Raphael come out and play today?”

When and how in the heaven and in the hell did we lose our sense of play? When and how did we make spirituality about being right or being saved or delivered?

The good news is that we fell and bumped our head and are suffering a bit of amnesia. We only fell from the grace of knowing who and what we are. We didn’t fall and bump ourselves out of god’s grace, as the Christian narrative goes. That story has held a good many of us (myself deeply included) for a good long time, and it’s running out of gas. New stories are now vying for our attention.

My truth is that you and I don’t have but the tiniest bit of what there is to be had as far as your sense of self extends. You are so much more than you ever dreamed yourself to be. We live in an Infinite-Love reality that is ever expanding, and so everything we come to treasure as meaningful or real only gets its value because it calls us to get comfortable with deepening our picture of reality.

With this blog series, I’m realizing I don’t have anything to sell you on. Well, to be honest, I’ve been putting out there my own ideas of reality and I guess making a case for that. But, in another way, I get to admit that I don’t know what I’m doing or what I’m selling. That, I feel, is what has earned me the title this week of being a powerful cult leader – I am in the great unknown and dangerously having some fun and dangerously enticing others to join me, and what this couple could see and verify for me is that I just might succeed in pulling that off – God forbid, hallelujah and praise Allah!

Reality is being auctioned off to the highest bidder. What do you have to bid for this treasure? What kind of reality do you dream of? What do you want? Deep down in the depths of your being? What makes you tick? What’s your wanter wanting underneath its wants? Are you angry that what you’ve subscribed to hasn’t paid off? I’m glad if you’re pissed. Get pissed at me if you need to. I’ll throw it back in your face and we can be a part of changing consciousness together.

As I said in my last blog, we as a species are at an epochal shift in our consciousness and existence. It is the time of the greatest change we have encountered so far. We go through periods of relative stability (history) that are followed by tumultuous and sudden change (herstory).

You and I get to be in on this, in whatever way we want to be. Once we begin awakening to that, it changes everything, and doesn’t stop.

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30 Days With My Parts: Day 30 – Self-Authority: Authoring Your Own Story

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90 Days With My Parts:  Day 30-

This is a sovereign, self-loving choice.  It is negotiated with your needs, my needs, and the needs of my other parts.  This is the backbone of SoulFullHeart.  It may be a day, a week, or a month.  That is a real-time decision made between us.  The only permission we need is our own self-permission, in which arises our own self-authority.

Christopher:  Good morning, Mother.

Mother:  Blessed morning, dearest Christopher.  What is in your heart this morning?

C:  Well, I was lying in bed and getting an irritation about this blog.  I checked in with my parts, specifically Simon and Nathaniel, and they are feeling a bit torn on this blog in the moment.  I offered what you mentioned to Simon about taking some time off and they seemed to like that idea.

M:  Okay.  What is behind that?  I guess my question is why are you telling me this?

C:  I can feel a part of me asking for permission, looking for an okay.

M:  Mmm.  I see.  I am going to let you handle this one dearest Christopher.  They need to hear it from you.  You are the SFH self not me, my son.  I feel you already know my answer.

C:  You are right.  Thank you for reflecting that back to me.

M:  That is one of the ways I serve.

C:   I am getting that.  Okay…good morning, Simon.

Simon:  Morning, Christopher.

C:  I was feeling all of our desire to postpone the blog.  Why do you feel the desire?

S:  I guess I just want to journal with you without the feeling it is being published.  It is hard for me to get totally vulnerable with you knowing that.  Plus I don’t feel as close to you when we type it as when we write it.  I can also feel like this is another task.

C:  I have felt this in you for a while.  You talked to Mother about this.  Do you remember what she said?

S:  She said the most important thing was me and my needs.

C:  We felt that a postponement was a negotiation, right?

S:  Yes, we did.

C:  That takes in consideration your needs, as well as Nathaniel’s.

S:  Yes.

C:  But I feel something in you that is struggling with that desire.

S:  I can feel that I don’t want to disappoint Jillian, Wayne, and Kathleen.  When I say that I can feel how that is just an old way I would have felt this.  I know that they would be behind this 100%.  They would support us even if we decided not to do it anymore.  They would just want to feel what was behind the decision.  The feeling.  No judgment, just data.

C:  Yes, exactly.  This is a sovereign, self-loving choice.  It is negotiated with your needs, my needs, and the needs of my other parts.  This is the backbone of SoulFullHeart.  It may be a day, a week, or a month.  That is a real-time decision made between us.  The only permission we need is our own self-permission, in which arises our own self-authority.

S:  I noticed the word ‘author’ in authority.

C:  Yeah!  Good catch.  We get to author our own story, not someone else.

S:  That is way cool.  We pulled a Wayne and Yeshua!

C:  I think we did, buddy.  How does that help you feel about taking some time off?

S:   I feel lighter about it.

C:  I feel that already in my body.  Anything else before I talk to Nathaniel?

S:  I don’t think so.

C:  Okay.  We will talk later.  Good morning, Nathaniel.

Nathaniel:  Good morning, Christopher.

C:  What were you feeling about this decision?

N:  I was feeling the need to be a little less outed.  I was feeling a need to connect with you privately as well.  We have just gotten to know each other and this feels a little less personal to me.  I understand the power of this container, and would like to participate in it when I feel a bit more connected to you.  I was feeling a little “dog and pony” about it.

C:  Hmmm.  Yeah.  There might some of that in there.  I felt that we were authentic though, for the most part.

N:  Oh, yes.  We certainly were.  My words were true to my heart as were yours.  It was just an image that came to me.  I want to feel a deeper desire to share.  One that comes with more time with you privately.

C:  Okay.  That is what we felt together this morning.

N:  I am grateful for the times with Mother and I hope that others can feel how we all have that connection, not just a select few.  It is a connection that I want to share, but also want to have privately as well.

C:  Yes.  Well said.  I feel we can share whatever experiences you wish to share after some time.

N:  I like that idea.  Thank you, Christopher.  I feel your leadership in this decision.  You will make a great king someday.

C:  Wow.  Thank you, Nathaniel.  That is really amazing to hear.  And you will be my wise guide.

N:  I would like that.

Mother:  Before you end, Christopher, what is your part in this decision?

C:  I was noticing that their feelings are my feelings.  I need to advocate for myself.  Even though I have changed, and am changing, because of this blog, that doesn’t mean I won’t stop changing.  I am not going to stop journaling.  I have enjoyed sharing myself, but I also wonder where it is landing.  My parts are becoming suspect as well.  I know my SoulFullHeart family takes them in.  I desire to continue the 90 Days because I want to for myself and because I know it is being digested by them.  I feel this decision as a growth point for me.

M:  Indeed, Christopher.  I can feel your heart and your desire to share with the world.  This is part of your purpose.  You are discovering that with these blogs.  You are also teaching with these as well.  You are demonstrating advocacy, self-love, sovereignty, and authority.  I am honoured to have been a part of it.

C:  Thank you so much, Mother.  That goes way in.  No time in my life has 30 days done so much to help me discover who I am and what I am capable of.  I want that to continue.

M:  Then it shall be so.

C:  Thanks to all of you who have been reading this the last 30 days.  I am changed because of your heart taking it in as well.  I am honoured you have been a part of it.  I will pick it back up when my heart calls.

Much love and gratitude,

Christopher

 My name is Christopher Tydeman and I’ve been embracing the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life since March, 2012. I am a SoulFullHeart facilitator-in-training, author on this blog, and I hosted the SoulFullHeart Experience Radio Show. I was invited by Jillian and Wayne Vriend, co-creators of SoulFullHeart, to begin my own 90 day outing. In the next 90 days, I will be vulnerably sharing my SoulFullHeart process publicly. It will include journaling from one or more of my parts, my daemon, the Divine Mother, or all of them in one big group love fest. You will meet Simon, who is my self-image part or prime monarch; Nathaniel, who is an aspect of my Daemon; Angela, who is my newly arising feminine part; and Peter, who is my magical child. I will not be sharing anything they do not want to share, or I may process with them until they feel comfortable. This is a healing crucible for me, but also a look into the inner world of this way of life called SoulFullHeart. Visit soulfullheart.com for more about the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life.

30 Days With My Parts: Day 29 – The Gift of Love

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I feel like this is the time of year that gave me an opportunity to get love anyway I could and gift giving was one of them.  We were all looking to do that.  Christmas was like one big unworthiness orgy.  Then we could punish ourselves more for all the money we spent on alleviating our unworthiness.

Day 29

Christopher:  Hello, everyone.  I felt drawn to address all of you this afternoon.  Another roundtable team meeting.

SImon:  Is this like a staff meeting, cuz if it is I’m outta here?  I had enough of those teaching.

C:  No Simon.  I just wanted to feel all my parts around this time of year.  I was moved by Jillian’s blog today and wanted to feel some triggers and joy around the holidays.  I am glad you spoke up, Simon.  I have felt some annoyance with the holidays.  Would you care to share?

S:  I tend to get wrapped up in the gift thing.  Ha!  That was funny.  Get it?

C:  Yes, Simon.  That was good.  What about the gift thing?

S:  I guess I have always been stressed around getting someone a gift they like.  I feel like I have an image around it.  Did I “hit a home run”?  Do they feel I am a good gift finder?  Did I get them enough?  Am I being balanced?  Did I spend enough? Oh, for God’s sakes what is wrong with me?  These are people that love me and just want me for me, not for what I give them for a gift.  I used to fucking hate this!  Looking for acceptance by gift giving.  I feel I used to rail against it as commercialism, which is still true, but it was a truth in service to the stress of feeling my own pressure.

C:  Wow, Simon.  Right on, man.  I feel some juice in this.  I feel I fused with you a bit around this and should have done more checking with you before going out.  Did you feel that this year?

S:  Not as much.  I enjoyed going out with Kathleen and Raianna.  It is just this old shit that followed me around.  Feels like the dregs of an old punishing voice.

C:  That was intuitive, Simon.  What would you like to say to this voice?

S:  Leave me the fuck alone!   I am not a part of the old conditioning anymore.  I have a family that loves me for me and I don’t need to impress any of them to be given love.

C:  Amen, brother!  Can we still love this voice though?  This voice feels like it was there to make sure you got love, Simon, the only way it knew how.

S:  Yeah, I can feel that.  I’m sorry.  It is true.  Had I had SoulFullHeart at that time I would have been able to feel that part of me.  A part of a part.  Is this possible?

C:  I haven’t the faintest clue.  It feels like as I am growing more, you are as well.  Leaving some old things behind.  Getting separation from the old life.  Feels like it could be Marcus.  Is that you, Marcus?

Marcus:  Hi, Christopher.

C:  It has been a while, Marcus.  What is going on, my friend?

M:  I feel like this is the time of year that gave me an opportunity to get love anyway I could and gift giving was one of them.  We were all looking to do that.  Christmas was like one big unworthiness orgy.  Then we could punish ourselves more for all the money we spent on alleviating our unworthiness.

C:  What would you have liked Christmas to be like, Marcus?

M:  I guess just to have people get together and share our love for each other.  Eat good food, tell stories, play games, watch movies, and maybe exchange a gift or two, nothing fancy.

C:  That sounds like a SoulFullHeart Christmas to me.

M:  Yeah, I guess it does.  I feel like I was projecting some old family conditioning when we were shopping.  I am sorry, Simon.

S:  Thanks, Marcus.  I am sorry I said leave me the fuck alone.  That was just backed up frustration of all those years.

M:  I get it.  Believe me.  Thank you, Simon.  There is a better way to hold gift giving and that should be done by Christopher.

S:  Agreed!

C:  I should have held that more and I apologize as well.  I feel that gifts are from the heart and if we are not in our hearts then the gift is just a false token of love.  We are energetically passing on unworthiness and that is held in the gift itself.  If we really looked with our heart-eyes, we would see everyone handing each other piles of shit and saying thank you for it.  That is not what the holidays are about.  How do you feel about this, Nathaniel?

Nathaniel:  I couldn’t have said it better myself.  I have always been irritated by this Christmas thing.  The false social structure, the false religious foundation, the false relationship to the Divine.  It is maddening to really let it in.  But I appreciate the way you are bringing this, Christopher.  The way SoulFullHeart holds this time of year.  Your magical children set the tone of this season and let it be what it truly is.

C:  And that is?

N:  About joy, magic, peace, and love.

C:  You sound like a hippie.

N:  Right on, man.

C:  Now THAT was funny!  Good to feel your sense of humour after what you said.

N:  I am getting that without some light, this world would be way too dark.  Even a daemon needs balance.

C:  Amen.  How about you, Angela.  How are the holidays for you?

Angela:  It is about singing, and dancing, and being creative.  I like making gifts!  So much funner.

C:  We had some fun today creating, didn’t we?

A:  Yes, we did.  I can’t wait to show everyone!

C:  Me too, Angela.  And of course I can’t forget you Peter!

Peter:  Christmas is about snow!!!!  That was soooo coool!  I want to play in it again! Can we? Can we?

C:  Of course!  If it sticks around.  What else is Christmas about?

P:  Cookies!  Lots and lots of cookies!

C:  Hahaha!  Okay, we will make cookies.

P:  It is also about being nice to people and not being so serious.  Too many grumpy bunnies out there.  I don’t like that.

C:  I feel we can all agree on that.  Thanks for reminding us Peter about having fun.

P:  You’re welcome, Santa Christopoopoo.

C:  I love you, Peter.

P:  I love you too, silly.

C:  Merry Christmas everyone.  Let’s go have some fun.

My name is Christopher Tydeman and I’ve been embracing the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life since March, 2012. I am a SoulFullHeart facilitator-in-training, author on this blog, and I hosted the SoulFullHeart Experience Radio Show. I was invited by Jillian and Wayne Vriend, co-creators of SoulFullHeart, to begin my own 90 day outing. In the next 90 days, I will be vulnerably sharing my SoulFullHeart process publicly. It will include journaling from one or more of my parts, my daemon, the Divine Mother, or all of them in one big group love fest. You will meet Simon, who is my self-image part or prime monarch; Nathaniel, who is an aspect of my Daemon; Angela, who is my newly arising feminine part; and Peter, who is my magical child. I will not be sharing anything they do not want to share, or I may process with them until they feel comfortable. This is a healing crucible for me, but also a look into the inner world of this way of life called SoulFullHeart. Visit soulfullheart.com for more about the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life.

30 Days With My Parts: Day 28 – Fear Of Real Love

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Love can bring up a lot of difficult feelings we have about ourselves.  There is a worthiness we must feel to let in real love.  You may still feel you don’t deserve it on some level.  Your experiences have conditioned you to believe so.  To open up to love is to open up to our deepest pain about ourselves.

Day 28

Christopher:  Good morning, Simon.

Simon:  Morning, Christopher.

C:  I wanted to talk to you about my relationship with Kathleen and how you are impacted.

S:  ‘Impacted’ sounds like a car crash.

C:  Okay.  Affected then.

S:  That sounds a little better.

C:  What comes up when I ask that?

S:  I feel like if I say something it may land in a way I didn’t intend.

C:  Sounds like management.

S:  Yeah.  You’re right.  I need to let you handle that one.  Old habits.

C:  This is what this is all about Simon.  Healing what prevents us from giving and receiving love.

S:  Okay.  My leading edge enjoys having someone around for you to relate to.  Someone for you to express love and feel love.  I enjoy that a part of her is similar to me.  Someone who gets why I am the way I am.  We can be that way together sometimes and get things done.  We also laugh at the same stuff and that is cool.  It’s like having a good friend around to share things with and do stuff with.

C:  That feels sweet, Simon.  I can feel your resonance with a part of her.  That feels like it affects you in a very good way.

S:  Yeah it does.  I feel like I can relate to someone.  I have always cordoned myself off from other people because of my fear of intimacy.  Like I can hang out for so long and then I need to get away to prevent getting too close.

C:  What would happen if you got ‘too close’?

S:  I feel like I would get exposed, become vulnerable to conflict which, as we talked about earlier, feels uncomfortable to me from my past experiences with my parents and past relationships.

C:  While I feel that is true on one level, I can’t also help to feel that is in service to the fear of something deeper.

S:  Like what?

C:  Maybe you are afraid of love itself.

S:  Hmmm.  I’m confused.

C:  Your experience of ‘love’ is skewed and jaded from your past experiences.  You really don’t know what true love is, do you?

S:  I don’t think I do, Christopher.  Love has always been felt as a struggle, a responsibility.  This is what I got from my parents.  I can feel how that was turned upside down with Jillian, but then it found its way there again, as if what was being offered by her was too much for me to accept as real.

C:  Well, don’t put that all on you, Simon.  Remember, it is a two-way street, but I can feel how you were conditioned to relate to love in that way.  There may be lifetimes in that conditioning.  I drew Jillian, and now Kathleen, for the purpose of experiencing real love that is “upside down”, as you said, from what you experienced in order to heal that conditioning.  To heal it into its right side up position.

S:  That makes sense.  I feel some sadness in never feeling real love transact between my parents.  I can feel how I ached for that feeling.  I couldn’t feel it in my friends’ parents either.  It was just the way it was.  I feel like I gave up on real love.  Like it doesn’t exist.

C:  Haven’t you felt it between Jillian and Wayne?  In session with Jillian and Wayne?  When Raianna was born?  On your wedding day?  In moments between me and Kathleen?

S:  Yes, Christopher.  I feel it now.  Thank you.  Ugh!  Why is my heart so buried, Christopher?  Why am I so afraid of something so beautiful and powerful?

C:  Love can bring up a lot of difficult feelings we have about ourselves, Simon.  There is a worthiness we must feel to let in real love.  You may still feel you don’t deserve it on some level.  Your experiences have conditioned you to believe so.  To open up to love is to open up to our deepest pain about ourselves.

S:  I want to feel that love more, Christopher.

C:  I do too, Simon.

S:  As you were typing, I could also feel how my need to be solo is based on feeling like I never had my own space, my own choices.  I was always responding to someone or something else.  When Raianna moved, I felt that it was finally my time to live life on my terms only to continue to create more relationships to others rather than myself.  When you moved here, I felt like that possibility was gone.  I can admit that I threw a monkey wrench in your relationship to Kathleen.

C:  I feel why you did that, Simon.  I was not present enough to feel you at that time.

S:  I know, Christopher.  I am just walking this out.  I feel your desire for a mate.  I feel a desire to feel real love, and that is through you that I get it.  I can admit that I worry I won’t get that if you are with another person.

C:  You have every reason to believe that, Simon.  I have to prove myself to you each and every day that I will be here for you and give you the real love you need and deserve.  I love you with all my heart and you are the most important part of me.

S:  Thanks, Christopher.  That goes in deep.  My tears are for all the times I never felt that as a child.  Thank you for helping me to remember all the other times I felt real love.  It is out there.  It exists.  I just want more of it.

C:  Then you shall receive it because you are worthy of it.

S:  Still hard for me sometimes.

C:  Never said it would be easy.

S:  I am tired all of a sudden.

C:  That was a lot, Simon.  Let us rest up for Raianna’s visit so we can let in more love.

S:  Okay.  Sounds good.

C:  I love you, Simon.

S:  I love you too, Christopoopoo.

C:  Seriously?  In this tender moment?

S:  : P

My name is Christopher Tydeman and I’ve been embracing the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life since March, 2012. I am a SoulFullHeart facilitator-in-training, author on this blog, and I hosted the SoulFullHeart Experience Radio Show. I was invited by Jillian and Wayne Vriend, co-creators of SoulFullHeart, to begin my own 90 day outing. In the next 90 days, I will be vulnerably sharing my SoulFullHeart process publicly. It will include journaling from one or more of my parts, my daemon, the Divine Mother, or all of them in one big group love fest. You will meet Simon, who is my self-image part or prime monarch; Nathaniel, who is an aspect of my Daemon; Angela, who is my newly arising feminine part; and Peter, who is my magical child. I will not be sharing anything they do not want to share, or I may process with them until they feel comfortable. This is a healing crucible for me, but also a look into the inner world of this way of life called SoulFullHeart. Visit soulfullheart.com for more about the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life.

30 Days With My Parts: Day 27 – Serving the Servant

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We co-create this reality together, my love.  I need you as much as you need me.  I cannot be felt unless one is able to feel.  I long and ache to be felt just as you do.  I have needs and desires, as well.  If I cannot be expressed and felt through a soul, then I will do what I can to make that so, as long as it is within the sovereign choice of the soul.

Day 27

Christopher:  Hello, Mother.  I feel to connect with you since I am not having any major pull to a specific part of me.

Mother:  I always enjoy being with you, Christopher.  How may I serve you?

C: Uh…wow.  To Nathaniel that sounds weird.  He is used to serving you.

M:  Ah, yes.  The Daemon Trap.

C:  The what?

M:  The Daemon Trap.  I feel that daemons have been so conditioned to being servants through the world’s religions that any thought of the opposite is blasphemy.  How can the Divine possibly serve the ones that are the servants?

C:  He says, that doesn’t make sense.

M:  My dear, Nathaniel.  We co-create this reality together, my love.  I need you as much as you need me.  I cannot be felt unless one is able to feel.  I long and ache to be felt just as you do.  I have needs and desires, as well.  If I cannot be expressed and felt through a soul, then I will do what I can to make that so, as long as it is within the sovereign choice of the soul.  I want to serve you and Christopher in any way I can to make that happen.

Nathaniel:  I can feel how over the lifetimes, I have been convinced and persecuted to believe that humans are below you.  That they are meant to carry out your Will in your name.

M:  What is my Will, Nathaniel?

N:  To Love and be loved.

M:  Was that the will of their god?

N:  No.  It was to judge and make sacrifices.  To follow the Word without question.  To be in subordination.

M:  So that is the trap, Nathaniel.  A false god trap.  I do not blame you for succumbing to it.  So much pain and fear in resisting.  In fact, it may all be a part of the process.

N:  And why is that?

M:  This Grand Experience is rooted in getting to feel itself completely, in all its glory and terror.  To separate in order to come back together with more love than before.  It doesn’t make sense to the Mind, Nathaniel, but when we get to feel each other in our pain, we can feel each other in our love.  It is an eternal paradox.  Just like the servant being served.

N:  I think I get it.  I still need time to feel you as serving me and Christopher rather than the other way around.

M:  We serve each other equally.  We are one and and the same, Nathaniel.  That will be felt as you experience me more.  For now, let me serve you and Christopher in any way I can.  It is the Will of My Heart.

N:  Yes, Mother.

M:  So?  How may I serve you?

N:  I am feeling a little lost in my purpose.  I want to feel a call, a passion pursuit.  I miss that.  I feel I used to have it then it got buried.

M:  I feel your desire for that, Nathaniel.  You have great passion for rising up against the false system.  However, I want you to remember you are a daemon sent to provide guidance.  You were meant to serve Christopher through my Love.  Not serve me through Christopher’s soul.

N:  Whoa.  You have me hanging upside down right now.

M:  Good.  How does it feel?

N:  Strange.  As soon as you said that I could feel how that was so true in the past.  I took over seeing the inequities and injustices throughout the world.  I wanted to do something about it.  I feel I hijacked this soul.

M:  I feel “hijacked” is a charged term.  You did what you felt was necessary to right what you felt were wrongs.  This was another part of the Daemon Trap.  Getting so involved that you forgot your place in the Grand Experience.  This too felt a necessary part of the separation and integration process I mentioned earlier.  This has been done by many daemons all over the planet.  Getting caught up in justice, power, glory, inequity, greed, so and so on.

N:  I feel relieved I am not the only one.

M:  Your fusion was for the compassion of those in need and suffering.  There are other daemons in need and suffering.  You can be a part of that healing, Nathaniel, but you need to heal yourself first.  I feel a responsibility in you to make it “right”.  You can’t do that on your own as we discussed before.

N:  Thank you, Mother.  I do feel a rumble and I want to use that to help Christopher with his purpose.  I feel how my healing helps with this.  Having you reframe my relationship to this soul was a big step for me.  Thank you.

M:  You are very welcome, my son.  I can’t feel you if you can’t feel you.  And my Will is to feel all my children with me in every moment.

N:  And my will is to feel you as much as possible, Mother.

M:  Then it shall be so.

N:  Amen.

My name is Christopher Tydeman and I’ve been embracing the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life since March, 2012. I am a SoulFullHeart facilitator-in-training, author on this blog, and I hosted the SoulFullHeart Experience Radio Show. I was invited by Jillian and Wayne Vriend, co-creators of SoulFullHeart, to begin my own 90 day outing. In the next 90 days, I will be vulnerably sharing my SoulFullHeart process publicly. It will include journaling from one or more of my parts, my daemon, the Divine Mother, or all of them in one big group love fest. You will meet Simon, who is my self-image part or prime monarch; Nathaniel, who is an aspect of my Daemon; Angela, who is my newly arising feminine part; and Peter, who is my magical child. I will not be sharing anything they do not want to share, or I may process with them until they feel comfortable. This is a healing crucible for me, but also a look into the inner world of this way of life called SoulFullHeart. Visit soulfullheart.com for more about the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life.

30 Days With My Parts: Day 26 – Healing Into Loving Conflict

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That is the where we can be different.  I can bring a vulnerability without feeling like I am knocking down a house of cards, and respond with spine AND heart that is grounded in love, not animosity.  Even if the conflict leads to hurt feelings, there is enough of us to own that and heal that together.  This is a whole new way of experiencing conflict.

Day 26-

Christopher:  Good morning, Simon.

Simon:  Morning, Christopher.

C:  Since I am exploring a relationship again, I wanted to talk about vulnerability and conflict, as those were difficult to access the last time we were in one.

S:  Don’t you have to go Christmas shopping?

C:  Simon…

S:  Clean the RV?

C:  > : {

S:  Clip your toenails?

C:  Simon!

S:  Ugh!  I know.  We are in conflict right now.

C:  Why is that?

S:  I am avoiding the discussion.  Sorry.  I feel how this is important for us to have even though I feel like I have been here many times.

C:  Why do you feel it is important?

S:  Because conflict is important to our growth, especially me.  It has been a lifelong struggle.  Maybe even these past lives you talk about.

C:  What is the struggle about?

S:  Being vulnerable with a feeling and then either hurting someone’s heart or getting a defensive kick back.  One leaves me feeling guilty, the other hurt.

C:  Tell me more.

S:   I can feel how my templating for conflict was unhealthy.  My parents fought and left me feeling unsafe.  I didn’t like how it felt in my body.  It stayed there because they never really talked to me about it or it was never resolved between them.

C:  So you learned how to diffuse conflict so you didn’t have to reactivate that feeling inside.

S:  I guess so.

C:  This wounding feels like Peter to me.  Do you feel you are protecting him?

S:  Hmmm, I suppose so.  I feel how that is true.

C:  Peter?  Would you like to talk to me for a bit?

Peter:  I guess.  What about?

C:  Your mommy and daddy when you were a boy.

P:  What about them, Christopher?

C:  How did you feel when they fought?

P:  Scared.  They scared me, Christopher.  They yelled and broke things sometimes.  I just put my head under the pillow.

C:   I am so sorry, Peter.  You didn’t get any comfort from them afterward, did you?

P:   I don’t remember, Christopher.  I just remember being scared.

C:   When I get in a conflict how do you feel?

P:  I get scared again.  Like bad things gonna happen.  I just remember what I felt like and I don’t like it.

C:  Do I feel different from your mommy and daddy?

P:  Yeah.

C:  Do you trust that I would talk to you about it afterward?

P:  I think so.

C:  I pinkie swear that I will talk with you about whatever happens so you feel better about it okay, Peter?

P:  Okay.  I believe you, Christopoopoo.

C:  Good.  That makes me happy, Peter.  I will take care of you my little magical man.

P:  I’m not a man, silly.  Geez.  You need your glasses fixed.

C:  Hahaha!  Okay, Peter.  I love you.

P:  I love you too, Christopoopoo.  Hehehehe!

C:  : )  You still with me, Simon?

S:  Yep.

C:  So I feel like this will be good to help you let go of a responsibility to care take Peter.

S:  I do too.

C:  I want to focus on the image of conflict, seeing how you are my self-image part.

S:  Okay.  I feel like in a conflict I am afraid of becoming like my father.  Explosive.  I can feel how that would scare Peter.  Then that explosiveness would scare and hurt the other and that reminds me of my mother.

C:  So there is a lot going on here in the trauma in both you and Peter.  Do you feel that I would get explosive and hurtful?

S:  No, not in the way my father did.  I feel how I still hold a lot of anger toward both of them in the way they held themselves in conflict.  There is just no healthy template.

C:  What about Wayne and Jillian?

S:  Yeah.  That was good to be a part of.  I could still feel some Peter fear that I was holding onto that was coming from a mom and dad projection.  But feeling how Wayne still held love in his heart and Jillian not crumbling helped to feel how it can be different from my past experience.

C:  Yes.  That is the where we can be different.  I can bring a vulnerability without feeling like I am knocking down a house of cards, and respond with spine AND heart that is grounded in love, not animosity.  Even if the conflict leads to hurt feelings, there is enough of us to own that and heal that together.  This is a whole new way of experiencing conflict.

S:  I’ll say.  I never felt the love in conflict before.

C:  No you haven’t.  At least not until Jillian and Wayne.  It’s is going to mean you leaning into me, Simon, and trusting I can handle it.  I can feel how you are eager to heal that fear so you can be more relational, less hidden.

S:  Yeah.  I do feel tired of sticking my head in the sand.

C:  I feel like we just scratched the surface on this.  I would like to continue this later with you.  I want to spend time with Kathleen.  Is that okay with you?

S:  Yeah.  I would like to get into this more as well.

C:  Really?  Don’t you have some budgeting to do?

S:  Christopher….

C:  Dishes to wash?

S:  > : {

C:  Errands to run?

S:  Wise ass.

C:  Love you…

S:  : /  Love you, too…

My name is Christopher Tydeman and I’ve been embracing the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life since March, 2012. I am a SoulFullHeart facilitator-in-training, author on this blog, and I hosted the SoulFullHeart Experience Radio Show. I was invited by Jillian and Wayne Vriend, co-creators of SoulFullHeart, to begin my own 90 day outing. In the next 90 days, I will be vulnerably sharing my SoulFullHeart process publicly. It will include journaling from one or more of my parts, my daemon, the Divine Mother, or all of them in one big group love fest. You will meet Simon, who is my self-image part or prime monarch; Nathaniel, who is an aspect of my Daemon; Angela, who is my newly arising feminine part; and Peter, who is my magical child. I will not be sharing anything they do not want to share, or I may process with them until they feel comfortable. This is a healing crucible for me, but also a look into the inner world of this way of life called SoulFullHeart. Visit soulfullheart.com for more about the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life.

30 Days With My Parts: Day 25 – Practically Sacred

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We are discussing a pretty typical experience that people have on a daily basis, but we are feeling it, digesting it, reflecting on it, learning from it.  Who does that when buying a vehicle?  It is usually filled with anxiety, stress, control, frustration, reservation, annoyance, and a plethora of other unfelt emotions that just get repressed and gets lodged into the emotional body.

Day 25

Christopher:  Good morning, everyone.  I am not sure who to begin with today.  A big day yesterday with the purchase of an RV.  Any reactions?

Angela:  I like it, but it totally needs to be clean.  It’s a little gross in areas.

C:  Yeah, it does need cleaning for sure.  Kathleen is excited to begin.

A:  So glad she is going to put a woman’s touch in it.

C:  You can advocate for your needs too, Angela.  You are not the only woman in the house.

A:  Awww…thank you, Christopher.  I was hoping you would say that.

C:  I have been meaning to talk to you about how you are feeling about me and Kathleen.

A:  I love it, Christopher.  I feels good to have sister-type around.

C:  I can feel that.  It is important to me that we have our time too, Angela.  We really just started to get to know each other.

A:  Yeah, I would like to keep talking with you.  And Simon.  You both mean so much to me.

C:  You mean a ton to me, Angela.  I will be looking to you for a woman’s perspective and advice.

A:  Really?  I would like that.  : )

C:  Any advice to give me now?

A:  I guess it would be to be honest with her.  No hiding this time.  She is stronger than a part of you thought she was at one point.

C:  Yes.   I am aware of that now.

A:  Also, a woman likes it when you stand your ground for what you feel in your heart even if it is not what they are feeling is true for them in the moment.

C:  That is the part I had struggled with.  So easy for a part of me to capitulate to the mom projection.

A:  You are a man now, Christopher.  A man with a huge heart and a growing spine.  Use ‘em both.

C:  Okay, Angela.  You are going to be a big part of my new life.  I can tell.

A:  I would like that, Christopher.

C:  I felt your leading edge just now.  We also have a trailing edge and I can feel yours around men in past lives.

A:  Yeah.  I would like to speak to Jillian and Kathleen about those and not talk about them here.

C:  I understand.  To be felt by another woman or women feels crucial.

A:  Thanks for understanding, Christopher.

C:  Of course, Angela.  Anything else you wanted to talk about?

A:  No not really.  I want to dance again with you.  That was fun.

C:  Yes, it was.  Simon was a little embarrassed but I could feel him get into it.

A:  Totally.  He liked it despite himself.  I’ll work on him.  ; )

C:  Lol!  I know you will.  I feel I am going to check in with him, too, this morning.

A:  Okay.  Thanks for talking with me.

C:  Thank you for your heart, Angela.  I am so honoured that you are a part of me.

A:  Swoon!

C:  Love you, Angela.

A:  I love you too, my king.

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Christopher:  Good morning, Simon.  How are you feeling about yesterday?

Simon:  I’m okay.  Glad we made it home without getting pulled over for the headlights.

C:  Yeah.  I could feel that stress in you.

S:  I appreciate you holding that and feeling me in it as you were driving.

C:  You are welcome, Simon.  These little details can create bigger problems, but nothing that we can’t deal with as they arise.

S:  I like feeling it that way.  I REALLY appreciated Wayne being there yesterday too. Wow.  I feel a little guilty saying that as if I couldn’t have trusted you to handle the details.

C:  I understand why you are so grateful.  While I we certainly could have dealt with all that ourselves, there is a comfort in having someone else to bounce ideas off of, and just have around as emotional support.

S:  Yeah.  I felt so much more at ease having both Wayne and Kathleen there.  It felt good to feel Kathleen in her vision of the inside amidst all the crap inside.  That was pretty cool she could do that.

C:  It felt important for all of us to be in agreement in our hearts.  I just got how SoulFullHeart is so unique in that every experience we have, whether spiritual or practical, are all sacred and calls us to feel ourselves in every moment, not just when we journal or have a session.

S:  You just now got that?

C:  Well, no.  I guess it just landed a little deeper as I am typing this out.  We are discussing a pretty typical experience that people have on a daily basis, but we are feeling it, digesting it, reflecting on it, learning from it.  Who does that when buying a vehicle?  It is usually filled with anxiety, stress, control, frustration, reservation, annoyance, and a plethora of other unfelt emotions that just get repressed and gets lodged into the emotional body.

S:  Are you still talking to me?

C:  I thought I was.  You didn’t have that experience?

S:  I guess I wasn’t conscious of it.  I was too busy stressing.  However, now that you are talking about it, it was different for me.  I could feel stress but that stress was being held and outed by you and therefore gave it air.  That helped me to relax which made the day go by without that pent up energy I usually get.  So, yeah, as a part I get what you are saying.  That is totally cool.

C:  I’m glad you felt that.

S:  Me too.  Is this journal worth publishing?  It doesn’t feel deep enough.

C:  They are all worth publishing, Simon.  They all have worth to me and you and that is priceless.  I don’t need anyone to “like” it.  I do.  Our SoulFullHeart family does  If it goes into someone else then that is awesome, but not required.

S:  Okay.  Good enough for me.  I guess that is still an old image thing.  Letting it go.

C:  I like it.

S:  Me too.

C:  Let’s go get something to eat, shall we?

S:  Starving.

C:  Actually, we’re thriving with love.

S:  That’s a whole new blog, let’s eat.

C:  Fair enough.

 My name is Christopher Tydeman and I’ve been embracing the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life since March, 2012. I am a SoulFullHeart facilitator-in-training, author on this blog, and I hosted the SoulFullHeart Experience Radio Show. I was invited by Jillian and Wayne Vriend, co-creators of SoulFullHeart, to begin my own 90 day outing. In the next 90 days, I will be vulnerably sharing my SoulFullHeart process publicly. It will include journaling from one or more of my parts, my daemon, the Divine Mother, or all of them in one big group love fest. You will meet Simon, who is my self-image part or prime monarch; Nathaniel, who is an aspect of my Daemon; Angela, who is my newly arising feminine part; and Peter, who is my magical child. I will not be sharing anything they do not want to share, or I may process with them until they feel comfortable. This is a healing crucible for me, but also a look into the inner world of this way of life called SoulFullHeart. Visit soulfullheart.com for more about the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life.

30 Days With My Parts: Day 24 – Coming Out Is Going In

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Day 24

There have been lives where I have tried to bring the divine feminine into the church and was ridiculed and excommunicated for it.  I have also experienced the other side, in being persecuted for just being female.  The “old ways” were a threat to the ruling church order.  I can feel other lifetimes of going against the grain that ended in pain.   I feel I succumbed to the adage “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em”.

Christopher:  Good morning, Nathaniel.  After Jillian’s blog yesterday, I realized we haven’t spoken in a while.  Are you up for it?

Nathaniel:  Yes, I would.  Been a little lonely lately.

C:  I am sorry, Nathaniel.  So many changes happening lately.

N:  Yes, there are.  A new romance.  It feels good to feel your heart in that space.  You have much love for her.

C:  Thanks, Nathaniel.  That feels good to hear that from you. Yes, I do.

N:  It is good to feel someone with a daemon as well.  Your past relationships did not have that consciousness.

C:  No, they didn’t.  I was not conscious myself.  Even when we did first connect, a part of me wasn’t permitting me to embody the reality of you.  Now that is far from the case.

N:  I can feel how I may have been partly the cause of the lack of permission.  I can feel the desire of wanting to stay off the radar.  Incognito, as Wayne and Yeshua put it.

C:  I know we have been through a bit of the reasons together, but would you mind sharing with the readers.  This would be the opposite of incognito.

N:  I feel like I would, Christopher.  I would like to have a purpose other than guarding, as I mentioned in another conversation.  Talking about myself may help others like me realize they are not alone.

C:  That would be incredible, Nathaniel.

N:  There have been lives where I have tried to bring the divine feminine into the church and was ridiculed and excommunicated for it.  I have also experienced the other side, in being persecuted for just being female.  The “old ways” were a threat to the ruling church order.  I can feel other lifetimes of going against the grain that ended in pain.   I feel I succumbed to the adage “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em”.

C:  Incoginito.

N:  Yeah.  Stay hidden.  Protect the feminine.  Which really turned into care-take the feminine.

C:  What do you want this life, Nathaniel?

N:  I know I do not want to stay hidden any longer.  I want to feel my connection to the Divine again. I used to want to go back home, but now that you are among other daemons, I feel more at home.  I don’t know if I want to project myself out to the world at this moment, that feels a bit vulnerable, but I guess that is what I am doing now.

C:  I feel what you mean, Nathaniel.

N:  I want to help in some way, Christopher.  I know I mentioned having gifts and I would like to harness again.  I feel I put them to the side, fearing their use would bring me, and you, more pain.

C:  You may need some healing from the past to help that along.

N:  Yes.  I believe I do.  I feel myself waning, Christopher.  The thought of coming out more makes me nervous and I tend to go back into hiding.

C:  I can feel that in my body right now.  There is a push-pull in you.  Desire and retraction which creates flatness.  You said you wanted more connection with the Divine.  Let’s talk to Mother.

N:  Yes.  I would like that.

Mother:  Hello, my beloved Nathaniel.  Your heart feels closed.  May I sit with you?

N:  Of course, Mother.

M:  Just sit quietly with me and feel my heart with yours.

N:  Yes, Mother.

……..(here, I play Ava Maria)

N:  So much pain, Mother.  I miss you so much.  All those years of being hated for loving you.  I am sorry I went into hiding.  I feel I failed you.

M:  You have NEVER failed me, my son.  You have always been true to me.  I do not blame you for needing to hide after all you have been through, Nathaniel.

N:  You forgive me, Mother?

M:  There is no forgiveness needed, Nathaniel.  That is old church dogma to keep you small.  You are always in a state of Grace, no forgiveness necessary.  My love does not require anything but your love.

N:  I love you, Mother.  So much.

M:  I feel that in your tears and your pain, Nathaniel.  That pain you feel is my love entering you and bringing it up to be felt.  I want you to feel again, Nathaniel.

N:  I do too, Mother.  I want to feel you again like I used to.

M:  Then it shall be so.  Just ask Nathaniel and we can feel each other.  I have tears for you as well, Nathaniel, as I miss you as much as you miss me.

N:  That is hard for me to let in sometimes.

M:  I will keep reminding you.

N:  Thank you so much, Mother.

M:  I thank you, my beautiful son.  For your courage to come out of hiding, one felt step at a time.

N:  Thank you, Christopher, for feeling what I needed.  The music was a stroke of genius.

C:  Oh, Nathaniel.  You are so very welcome.  Sometimes I need a way in too.  Soon the music will just be a part of our heart and it will open without help.  Until then, we both need it.

N:  I feel ready for the day.

C:  Me too!  A dose of Mother Love is better than coffee any day.

N:  Amen.

C:  I love you, Nathaniel.

N:  And I love you too, Christopher.  So much.

My name is Christopher Tydeman and I’ve been embracing the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life since March, 2012. I am a SoulFullHeart facilitator-in-training, author on this blog, and I hosted the SoulFullHeart Experience Radio Show. I was invited by Jillian and Wayne Vriend, co-creators of SoulFullHeart, to begin my own 90 day outing. In the next 90 days, I will be vulnerably sharing my SoulFullHeart process publicly. It will include journaling from one or more of my parts, my daemon, the Divine Mother, or all of them in one big group love fest. You will meet Simon, who is my self-image part or prime monarch; Nathaniel, who is an aspect of my Daemon; Angela, who is my newly arising feminine part; and Peter, who is my magical child. I will not be sharing anything they do not want to share, or I may process with them until they feel comfortable. This is a healing crucible for me, but also a look into the inner world of this way of life called SoulFullHeart. Visit soulfullheart.com for more about the SoulFullHeart Way Of Life.