By Kasha Rokshana
So many popular โspiritual truthsโ feel so empty and tinny to me, and they can sometimes be used by parts of you to quell your genuine passion and divine fire. They become such dull platitudes and yet they are revered and held as THE irrefutable Truth for so many souls.
There are so many different โtruthsโ that indeed ARE true in different ways, yet just like affirmations, they can so easily be used in a manipulative way that also dulls intuition and raw instinct within yourself and others. Itโs about how they are related to, not about the words themselvesโฆ
Taking the โhigh roadโ that some of these sayings offer really isnโt as interesting to me as going into the messy road, the one that has brambles and needs some bush-whacking, for that is where realness is and also some very catalytic Divine energies. Itโs not that being elevated enough to see the bigger picture isnโt important, but sometimes itโs the grind and grist that leads us to our deepest growth AND our truest exit from the need for grist to appear in the same way.
These โtruthsโ which are so often hijacked by the false light matrix, can be used to gaslight, to divert attention away from a need to actually own whatโs rumbling in yourself or another, to keep you from dropping into a realization about a shadow play-out thatโs been happening in your life or your spiritual healing/writing offerings.
And, they do anything BUT support you to go into more intimacy grounds within yourself, to truly cultivate and embody your Divine Self, and in that same way they do not support a deepening intimacy ground with others built with true compassion and love.
On my own awakening and Ascension journey, I havenโt personally been drawn to very many of them or the leaders/teachers who spout them off and justify the abuse they dole out through them. Yet, I also feel in my heart why some souls would be drawn and even ignore any intuitions they may have about them, especially if this to them is what love is or must be and it sure seems much more alive than what theyโve endured in the past.
There are so many I could highlight today, yet Iโve chosen just a few to share about that seem to really show up a lot.
โIf youโre triggered by me, itโs not about me, itโs all about youโ.
While this is true to some degree, this so often gets used to divert away from your own accountability, the mirror of your own shadow showing up. Even though you may have innocently triggered someone, sometimes there is still room to own your own side of things, to see and feel someone in their trigger, and discern if this is a reflection you truly need at this time or not. None of us are perfect, and we DO get to choose whose opinions and reflections of us we value the most, yet there is so much data in all of our triggers for ourselves and our relationships to absolutely everything and everyone.
Also, where is the heartfelt care in saying this to someone that you supposedly DO care about?
โMake sure you heal before you enter in romantic relationship so you donโt project your wounding onto your partner.โ
Rare is the soul who is fully done with projecting. It is so challenging at times to be the receiver of projections and sometimes, again, we can innocently trigger someone into this ground, yet this is ALL a sacred part of our exploration of deeper intimacy with others. Sometimes parts of us HAVE to project in order to see and feel themselves from a different light. Without allowing each other to have โstuffโ we are working when in relationship, we have missed the point of even going into it in the first place.
In the past it was hard for a time for parts of me to get that we have this permission inside to get messy with others or to let them get messy with me without any true โwinnerโ in the situation, without anyone needing to be โwrongโ or โrightโ, and without anyone needing to pretend to be perfect and have it all together. Yet what gets me through the pretense and old conditioning around conflict, is the reminder that weโre all in this together, weโre all imperfect, and if we can at least hold a common ground of doing deep inner work and wanting the mirrors that true intimacy offers us, then we will be just fine and heal in ways we never imagined possible.
And hereโs one more which has recently been on my radar: โIt doesnโt matter if someone steals or takes credit for your writings or creations made in the service of love. It never truly belonged to you anywaysโ.
If you have created something from the fires of your inner work, your passion, your hard-earned Divine access inside and out, and someone takes credit for that who has absolutely NOT done the same work you have and may actually be using your words/creations to seduce and create their own platform and following (something many โleadersโ do, unfortunately)โฆ why would that be considered โokโ? If you genuinely feel unattached, I would say thereโs a missing Divine passion in you that some part of you is afraid of and concerned about what it could do if untethered.
Advocacy and reasonable self-defence are not separate from Divine passion. You can keep your heart open, refrain from getting nasty, and stand solidly in your truth all at the same time. Iโve done it, my beloveds have done it, itโs possible and itโs accessible. It also shows that instead of trying to control your emotions, which arenโt ultimately controllable, you are willing to explore what is actually happening in this scenario from all angles possible.
โWhatโs the lesson I need to learn here?โ
Whenever I hear someone say this, I immediately feel an Inner Punisher playing disciplinarian inside of them. It can feel so harsh to say this to yourself or to have a beloved โteacherโ say this to you. It takes the humanity out of the equation or worse, tries to discipline your humanity and make it bad or wrong or off or even โnot ascended enoughโ.
I donโt feel that the vast majority of โteachersโ out there are even remotely qualified enough to ask such questions or make such judgements of you or anyone else, but thatโs another piece Iโll share more about soonโฆ
When something goes sideways in my own life, I donโt ask myself if thereโs a โlessonโ to learn because Iโm not in school anymore. What I do is look into the mirror thatโs been offered and ask my parts/aspects, โwhat do I need to feel in myself thatโs been off my radar but that I couldnโt see without this situation?โ Even with this question sometimes Iโve had to feel a shame spiral my parts have fallen intoโฆ yet grounding it back into them and feeling where that comes from helps so much, as well as feeling the situation from as many angles as possible, truly โmilkingโ it for my growth and inner reconciliation while inviting the Divine in to support and love me through it, and then moving on. Nothing will help you move on the way real love does and that is always, without any doubt in my heart, seeded first within.
Thereโs such an important discernment that is being asked of us in spirituality and beyond. Itโs as simple as asking questions about what is truly real, what your heart and intuition both tell you is possible, and feeling how the Divine is guiding you in every momentโฆ whether this means you are able to โfollow the crowdโ and wherever the current fanfare is around this or that โtruthโ or โteacherโ, or if youโd rather stay in your own lane for a while, feel it all out from deep within, and continue to find your own empowered connection to yourself and the Divine.
This has been such an important place to go for me personally and I imagine that we have all struggled at times to find our way to whatโs pure, true, good, and loving amidst all of the din.
If my truth stirs or inspires your own in some way, please do be in touch and if youโre curious about 1:1 sessions with me (for women), we can meet for a free intro call to talk about the SoulFullHeart process and community and if it might be a fit for you at this time: soulfullheart.org/sessions
Love,
Kasha
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Kasha Rokshana is a Divine Feminine Love Ambassador, SoulFullHeart Womenโs Facilitator, soul scribe, and poetess. Visit https://www.soulfullheart.org for more information about space holding sessions and free 45-min intro calls, group calls, videos, community, etc.