Individuating From Birth Family Guided Meditation: ‘Discover’ Vlog Series With Gabriel & Kalayna Solais

by Kalayna Solais

Healing, awakening, becoming who you are meant to be is a process with many layers, reactions, feelings, openings, and completions.

Often this process leads us to a necessary individuation from birth family as well as other significant relationships we have in our lives.

This process of finding your identity apart from the one which your birth family primarily knows you to have is sacred, tender, and often very challenging.

As Gabriel and I explore in this video, there are many parts with many different needs and reactions around this process. Ultimately, it is a process of finding yourself, discovering what the most self-loving choices are for you and your path, and letting go of relationships that no longer resonate, all at a rate and pace that is manageable for your parts and for you as a growing, healing, and ascending heart and soul.

About halfway through the video we lead a guided meditation to help you connect with your Inner Protector, who will likely have strong feelings about this topic and process, and the part(s) of you that are most anchored into birth family in some way, shape, or form.

The biggest benefit to taking on and letting in this process of individuating from birth family is what you’ll discover about yourself and what you really want in ALL of your relationships. The vacancy created by letting go of relationships that don’t match your frequency and path can eventually be filled by relationships that DO resonate with where and who you ARE as an ever-shifting and awakening being.

Follow-up questions you can ask your Inner Protector and the part(s) of you that you met during the meditation:

What is hard about the relationship with birth family?

What is good about the relationship with birth family?

What is the fear of taking space from birth family?

What would be good about it?

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Kalayna Solais is a SoulFullHeart Facilitator for women, energy healer, soul scribe, and poetess. Gabriel Solais is an emoto-spiritual men’s and women’s facilitator, energy healer, writer, poet, and heartist. 

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Filling Up And Serving From The Love-Well Within

by Kalayna Colibri

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To love fully, we must be self-filled, not self-less… this can a hard one to wrap our heads and hearts around, as parts of us tend to be very conditioned to the idea that in order love someone ‘the right way’, this often means sacrificing or over-compromising on many things, including but not limited to, our sense of spirituality, our emotional reality, our lifestyle, etc. It often means that parts of us have been OK with ‘shrinking to fit’ in order to maintain certain relationships, even if these relationships aren’t deeply resonant or nourishing, leaving us feeling drained, depressed, maybe even very ill.

Our 3D selves, often made up of many different parts of us, like our Inner Teenager, Inner Mother/Father (or Matriarch/Patriarch), Inner Punisher, and Inner Protector, seem to have a way of expressing ‘love’ that often compromises even their own deeply held beliefs and feelings. Love then becomes a game of disowning and dishonoring our authentic emotional reality for the sake of others as well as being very self-sacrificial and often martyrs, too. Over-giving becomes the norm and choosing YOU over anyone else becomes a ground for self-punishment and beratement instead of a feeling of needing to fill up the inner love-tank so that you only have MORE to give and receive, too. Chances are that if you are wired-up to live in this more outbound way, you often find yourself drained energetically, emotionally and even spiritually.

I hear many empaths staking the claim that everyone around them ‘drains’ them, painting a picture that their gift of being empathic is actually a burden, which it can certainly feel like to parts of us, especially while this dynamic of over-giving to others and under-giving to yourself is going on. The truth that I have felt and experienced, is that our need to go within is a strong one that shows itself in so many ways… and that the gift of being here to serve love means serving from an overflow of SELF love; a steady stream created within by the waters of self care and creating a sacred space for yourself, your parts, your Metasoul Aspects to land in.

Taking the space necessary in order to find this deep inner overflow is tricky while surrounded by others who do not value this space for themselves. The love we have and want to offer each other will always be there in some form, yet without space to feel and BE in our own hearts and healing processes, means that we are serving water from a dry or drying-out well that needs replenishment which must start from within. It is as important to be with ourselves as it is to be surrounded by others who offer nourishment on all levels of being and in all areas of our lives and that want to support us in taking care of us as well as being supportive towards them.

This felt like an important point to share today, especially as Gabriel Heartman and I have been digesting and sharing a lot about the social area of life in our vlog series, Practical Ascension. If you are curious to take in more about our experience of healing in this area of life and what we offer through the SoulFullHeart lens, you can find our videos on Youtube on the SoulFullHeart Experience channel and on this playlist:

Filling up within can be one of the hardest things to imagine doing for different parts of us, depending on the configuration of our lives, yet it is so important, especially during these times of intense awakenings and upgrades happening on all levels and the increasing depth of our own Ascension processes! Nothing draws the relationships with others that we truly desire, more than being willing to say ‘no’ when necessary, to say ‘yes’ when it feels nourishing and alive, and to find a relationship with ourselves that is truly loving, unconditional and infinite.  ❤



Kalayna Colibri is a SoulFullHeart facilitator for women around (and under) the age of 30, energy healer, indigo-crystal bridge, soul scribe, and poetess.  Visit for more information about space holding sessions, group calls, videos, community, etc. Visit our Patreon page to offer a money donation to support our offerings at

Responding To ReSOULnance

By Jelelle Awen
From Shen Wei Dance Arts
You feel that soul ‘yes!’, that reSOULnance, that ‘this is ME!’ feeling….. what triggers this response, what pushes it up, what elicits it, what calls it forward….THIS is the direction to go in. This feeling of ‘YES-ness’ is a guide, a marker, a big ARROW of….. ‘go THIS way’!
Your soul vibrates with this reSOULnance. Your soul allows the space and room for this vibration that ripples into your world. Your soul allows the tears and smiles of reunion, of remembrance, of longing and desire, of wishes and dreams. Your soul wants MORE of this reSOULnance and seeks for more. Your soul is activated in the process of the remembering and the feeling of reSOULnance facilitates this journey into reclaiming and re-minding.
And, the response from other aspects of you comes often without awareness or consciousness. These aspects, vibrating in lower frequency 3D conditioned places and sometimes in 4D transitional spaces, immediately and so often without consciousness, go into ‘quell it’ mode. These logical and rational and SCARED aspects say, “That can’t work” or “I don’t have the money” or “This is too hard” or “This relationship is stopping me” or “It’s not the right time” or….many, many such things and ALL with an energy of hopelessness and limited possibilities. All with the energy of fear.
Coming from fear, these 3D selves of you don’t want to get hurt again, they don’t want to feel pain again, they don’t want to risk for fear of pain coming again, they want to keep life safe and comfortable for as long as possible. They don’t want to risk for LOVE because love feels uncertain and, often, unknown. These aspects often have ‘good reasons’ for feeling this way and the roots of these feelings, when felt by you, CAN heal and let go into more trust and love.
The self limiting thoughts and beliefs conditioned into these 3D aspects comes from our hugely suppressed culture, from birth families that ingrain these energies into our Beings, from relationships in which you shrink and suffer yet keep remaining, from separation and isolation, from capping and blocking the merging of higher frequencies into your consciousness.
What have you felt reSOULnance with lately? What has pinged your soul, chiming and ringing? What has LIT you up and made your sky open up? Maybe it is these WORDS right now!
And, then what? What happens after these words or other things which cause reSOULnance, are digested? How long does the feeling last? What feelings or thoughts come in to suppress it or shift it or close it? What aspects of 3D conditioning raise up to ‘argue against’ the rising tide of awareness and consciousness?
Feel this and track this inside of yourself and you might be amazed at how prevalent the quelling of your reSOULnance is. And how much energy these fearful thought forms have and how much they impact your capacity to manifest and BE the YOU that you most want to BE, living the life of your soul and heart expression.
ReSOULnance is a gift. A gift that wants to reflect your bigness back to YOU and is NEVER about the source ultimately but about YOU. ReSOULnance speaks of LOVE. It invites LOVE. It IS LOVE…, this is the arrow of ‘go THIS way’ which is ultimately the WAY OF LOVE. The ‘right’ way is the way of PURE love.
Jelelle Awen is an emoto-spiritual teacher, soul scribe, wayshower, multidimensional bridge, lover of love and co-creator and facilitator of SoulFullHeart Way Of Life. Visit for more information about space holding sessions with her, group calls, videos, community, etc